Son in prison
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I am still in shock, please bear with me. I am devastated. My autistic 23 Yr old son has gone to prison. This has been going on for 4 years. Police constantly coming to house, taking him away,taking phones. Now the worst has happened & I've lost him. When will it end? What help is there for him when he is released? He clearly needs specialist help but I can't afford it privately. I love him, I want to help him. I never thought our lives would be this.
Hi Ebony,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here and clearly very distressed. The best part of the forum for you to post on is General Discussion as it gets more traffic. For the moment focus on yourself, find time to grieve and get your head around what has happened bearing in mind at all times that you have done nothing wrong. There are many mothers on this forum, including mothers to sons who have autism/neurodivergent. If you don't get much response here with resources available to help please use the search bar on the website near the top of the page to search for "autism" and you will be able to find other posts where users have cited additional help. I can't imagine how you feel but I send big hugs and I'm sure you will get through this xx
I'm so sorry you find yourself here and clearly very distressed. The best part of the forum for you to post on is General Discussion as it gets more traffic. For the moment focus on yourself, find time to grieve and get your head around what has happened bearing in mind at all times that you have done nothing wrong. There are many mothers on this forum, including mothers to sons who have autism/neurodivergent. If you don't get much response here with resources available to help please use the search bar on the website near the top of the page to search for "autism" and you will be able to find other posts where users have cited additional help. I can't imagine how you feel but I send big hugs and I'm sure you will get through this xx
So sorry Ebony that you have found yourself here and the journey you have been on x
If you go on to the discussion and support you will find other mums going through the same situation as you
Sending hugs and just to let you know you are not alone we are all here for you xx
If you go on to the discussion and support you will find other mums going through the same situation as you
Sending hugs and just to let you know you are not alone we are all here for you xx
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Hi Ebony, I can't offer much advise on prison but I'm here because of my son too and just wanted to give you a big virtual hug. This forum is made up of a huge bunch of wonderful strong women - we all have days when we fall apart but this is where you come on those days and someone will pick you up.
I hope you're doing OK; please do come and chat to us all xx
I hope you're doing OK; please do come and chat to us all xx
Hi Ebony
After reading your post I felt the need to reply - I am so sorry that you find yourself here and sending you a hug and support.
The young member in our family is on the autisitic spectrum but we have not expereinced prison so unfortunately I am unable to offer advise on prison itself - but lots of members on the forum who can, so hopefully you will receive some more posts soon.
Have you been to see your GP for support for you? He/she should be able to signpost you to support that you may need or what support is available in your area.
Do you belong to any local autism groups? Again, they may able to help/support you with everything that is going on.
The Prison Reform Trust is a charity that maybe able to offer support/advice information to you. This link takes you to their contact details www.prisonreformtrust.org.uk/ForPrisonersFamilies
I hope this information is of some help to you.
Thinking of you. x
After reading your post I felt the need to reply - I am so sorry that you find yourself here and sending you a hug and support.
The young member in our family is on the autisitic spectrum but we have not expereinced prison so unfortunately I am unable to offer advise on prison itself - but lots of members on the forum who can, so hopefully you will receive some more posts soon.
Have you been to see your GP for support for you? He/she should be able to signpost you to support that you may need or what support is available in your area.
Do you belong to any local autism groups? Again, they may able to help/support you with everything that is going on.
The Prison Reform Trust is a charity that maybe able to offer support/advice information to you. This link takes you to their contact details www.prisonreformtrust.org.uk/ForPrisonersFamilies
I hope this information is of some help to you.
Thinking of you. x
Hi Ebony,
I can only imagine your devastation . My son is 23 too and currently on police bail . Stung by Vigilantes even though he disclosed he had autism !
im so sorry you are in this hellish position- I still can't believe it and feel so stressed.
was he getting help for his autism before the police got involved? From what I've heard people with Autism and learning diff etc make up quite a proportion of those being investigated and/or charged .
how is he coping - and you too ?
bestest of wishes to you x
I can only imagine your devastation . My son is 23 too and currently on police bail . Stung by Vigilantes even though he disclosed he had autism !
im so sorry you are in this hellish position- I still can't believe it and feel so stressed.
was he getting help for his autism before the police got involved? From what I've heard people with Autism and learning diff etc make up quite a proportion of those being investigated and/or charged .
how is he coping - and you too ?
bestest of wishes to you x
Thank you all for your support. It means so much. I honestly feel so much pain, physically & emotionally. My son was getting little to no support. Social Services did nothing to help. I should have done so much more but didn't know where to turn. Now it's too late. All I can do is find the right support for when he is released. I want him home but scared of the knock, constantly & can't live in fear any more. We had the knock so many times. We became totally isolated, refusing guests to the house, not answering the door. My GP has been OK but all sign posting so far has only been therapy related for me. This is my therapy because its only people on here who truly know what I'm going through.