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So oh was sacked. Work told friends and colleagues he's just left suddenly. No explanation. They have been trying to contact him and he won't answer. He's sad, upset, ashamed, devastated. Doesn't want anyone to know.
what excuses have yous made? He's adamant he is not telling them the truth. What can he say? I've thought about saying he received an illegal file or just saying he broke some rules among other things. These people have been a huge part of our lives, they are friends and it was more than just a job.
My head is a mess and I'm not thinking straight please help x
what excuses have yous made? He's adamant he is not telling them the truth. What can he say? I've thought about saying he received an illegal file or just saying he broke some rules among other things. These people have been a huge part of our lives, they are friends and it was more than just a job.
My head is a mess and I'm not thinking straight please help x
Jayjay,
I have not been in this situation but I would say keep as near to the truth as possible without giving anything away. You could say something like he is going through a bad time personally and feels the need to change or he is struggling with his mental health and can not cope with work at this time.
It is awful having to live a lie, so trying to get as near to the truth is the best option mentally, no one can accuse you of lying then.
Please look after yourself, take some time out to clear your head x
I have not been in this situation but I would say keep as near to the truth as possible without giving anything away. You could say something like he is going through a bad time personally and feels the need to change or he is struggling with his mental health and can not cope with work at this time.
It is awful having to live a lie, so trying to get as near to the truth is the best option mentally, no one can accuse you of lying then.
Please look after yourself, take some time out to clear your head x
Hi jayjay
My hub lost his job due to his contract conditions, thankfully he was able to leave without getting sacked, it was a horrible time. He didn't have his own phone it was a work phone so he had no contact, he did however write down a few numbers before given back he had already deleted social media.
A few weeks later he has a cheap phone, he contacted one of his old work colleagues and told them his side, it hit the media so all knew. A few weeks it took nearly 2 years for him to meet them, he went and met some and they told him they would of helped, supported etc and one said those who say silly things are not your friends its us that are here.
I know everyone is different in these situations, myself have lost many family and friends has I have stayed. Its not perfect , it's a strange new normal.
Virtual hug
Anne
My hub lost his job due to his contract conditions, thankfully he was able to leave without getting sacked, it was a horrible time. He didn't have his own phone it was a work phone so he had no contact, he did however write down a few numbers before given back he had already deleted social media.
A few weeks later he has a cheap phone, he contacted one of his old work colleagues and told them his side, it hit the media so all knew. A few weeks it took nearly 2 years for him to meet them, he went and met some and they told him they would of helped, supported etc and one said those who say silly things are not your friends its us that are here.
I know everyone is different in these situations, myself have lost many family and friends has I have stayed. Its not perfect , it's a strange new normal.
Virtual hug
Anne
Hiya hun.
My hubby had the knock then he was put on some sort of gardening leave for 7 months. He didn't see any of his work colleagues until he went in and handed his notice in and they said what's going on and all he said was his goodbyes and we moved the next day.
Big ((hugs)) xx
My hubby had the knock then he was put on some sort of gardening leave for 7 months. He didn't see any of his work colleagues until he went in and handed his notice in and they said what's going on and all he said was his goodbyes and we moved the next day.
Big ((hugs)) xx
What Lost and Confused said, seems to be a good compromise. If you surround that with that he's not ready to talk about it yet, he's not lying. All of what Lost and Confused said was true, as is potentially the not ready to talk about it yet.
I was left to sort my sons job out when he was on remand, it was terrible - I told them he was suffering a break down, thankfully I never spoke to any one directly. His colleagues must have wondered what was going on! But when it came out in the media they learnt the (twisted) truth. God knows what they thought he was well liked:(
I suffered as I was edged out my job too. Meetings were cloak and dagger affairs, I was escorted in and out the building like a criminal, that hurt I'd been there for many years - in fact the final meeting was held in another venue.
my heart goes out to you Jayjay and the pain your both going through - hug sent x
I suffered as I was edged out my job too. Meetings were cloak and dagger affairs, I was escorted in and out the building like a criminal, that hurt I'd been there for many years - in fact the final meeting was held in another venue.
my heart goes out to you Jayjay and the pain your both going through - hug sent x
Hi Jayjay
I would support what the others have advised
He dosent need to explain in detail.if anything I would just say it's for personal reasons without going in to detail
If you start on the route of trying to make up reasons it could come out in the media and we all know how twisted they make it
He dosent and neither do you need to disclose as it is your business
xx
I would support what the others have advised
He dosent need to explain in detail.if anything I would just say it's for personal reasons without going in to detail
If you start on the route of trying to make up reasons it could come out in the media and we all know how twisted they make it
He dosent and neither do you need to disclose as it is your business
xx