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Today is prison release day for husband (now separated). He phoned me on Friday to say it would be his last call before he is out. Apparently they start to close phone access, maybe because it’s weekend. He sounded optimistic, and wanted me to now stop worrying . He said he recognised how hard it has been for me, and he thanked me for my support during his prison time, he said it kept him going. He wants me now to rest and enjoy my life, he doesn’t want me to be hurt anymore.
So now I sit, alert, on watch….again! I can’t help but worry about him. I have to remind myself that he is a mature man, had a successful business, was well respected and admired before this dreadful event. He is capable of doing whatever he sets his mind to. He is able to sort out his own travel . He has single accommodation to go to after meeting probation, he a long journey ahead but he he has all day. I’m sure he will enjoy the freedom. Small things we take for granted will be so precious to him. So I hope all goes well for him. He has no sim and no full battery for his phone and he said he will take his time on sorting that out so I am not expecting a call from him. But irrational fear of calls /visits from
Police or vigilantes.
Friends are already rallying. Encouraging texts pinging, invitations to coffee, lunch, tea, dinner. All knowing me, knowing that I will be thinking of him today and worrying! I know and understand all the strategies to work though this, and I will. But for now I’m going to sit and reflect and wallow a little. Before putting that smile on and reassuring everyone that I am ok. Just another step forward. X
So now I sit, alert, on watch….again! I can’t help but worry about him. I have to remind myself that he is a mature man, had a successful business, was well respected and admired before this dreadful event. He is capable of doing whatever he sets his mind to. He is able to sort out his own travel . He has single accommodation to go to after meeting probation, he a long journey ahead but he he has all day. I’m sure he will enjoy the freedom. Small things we take for granted will be so precious to him. So I hope all goes well for him. He has no sim and no full battery for his phone and he said he will take his time on sorting that out so I am not expecting a call from him. But irrational fear of calls /visits from
Police or vigilantes.
Friends are already rallying. Encouraging texts pinging, invitations to coffee, lunch, tea, dinner. All knowing me, knowing that I will be thinking of him today and worrying! I know and understand all the strategies to work though this, and I will. But for now I’m going to sit and reflect and wallow a little. Before putting that smile on and reassuring everyone that I am ok. Just another step forward. X
Hi Tabs,
Just wanted to wish you all the best on this step. Take as much time as you need to wallow. Try to get out in nature today if possible, it generally helps to reduce stress and gives you an opportunity to find peace in your thoughts. Sending love to you xx
Just wanted to wish you all the best on this step. Take as much time as you need to wallow. Try to get out in nature today if possible, it generally helps to reduce stress and gives you an opportunity to find peace in your thoughts. Sending love to you xx
My heart slipped a little beat there when I read that - I don't know why, but I guess out of compassion. I often wonder what this day will feel like for me and my person, the status of our relationship /friendship. Whatever my life situation, I know his release date and it's a day before a significant birthday of mine, even if we've parted contact the day won't pass me by.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I can only imagine how you must feel. The worry and concern doesn't simply stop, but it sounds like you've been a great support to him and from all of your updates it seems that he's learned a lot about himself and will take ownership of the next phase, I'm sure he'll reach out if he needs to. He'll have a lot to process and to think about, I can understand wanting or needing to take those first few steps alone.
It seems that this, although the final stage, will perhaps be the strangest, there is no end date, like the rest of the journey - No waiting for devices, charges, court dates, sentencing, release date. I wish you all the best, I really do, not only is this the time for him to rebuild his life, i suspect this stage also comes with a new reality and freedom to put this chapter of your life behind you and start building the next.
I'll be thinking of you and him over the next few days.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I can only imagine how you must feel. The worry and concern doesn't simply stop, but it sounds like you've been a great support to him and from all of your updates it seems that he's learned a lot about himself and will take ownership of the next phase, I'm sure he'll reach out if he needs to. He'll have a lot to process and to think about, I can understand wanting or needing to take those first few steps alone.
It seems that this, although the final stage, will perhaps be the strangest, there is no end date, like the rest of the journey - No waiting for devices, charges, court dates, sentencing, release date. I wish you all the best, I really do, not only is this the time for him to rebuild his life, i suspect this stage also comes with a new reality and freedom to put this chapter of your life behind you and start building the next.
I'll be thinking of you and him over the next few days.
Tabs
I have no words but I feel you have every right to wallow right now (God knows I've done enough of that!) and I'm hoping that everything goes well and with out any adverse events for both of you.
I have no words but I feel you have every right to wallow right now (God knows I've done enough of that!) and I'm hoping that everything goes well and with out any adverse events for both of you.
Hi Tabs
Thank you for the update and just wanted to wish you all the best in finding happiness xx
I hope your x can move on and rebuild a new life and hopefully soon he can get settled x
You have been a tower of strength to him and you are definitely allowed to wallow xx
Take care lovely x
Thank you for the update and just wanted to wish you all the best in finding happiness xx
I hope your x can move on and rebuild a new life and hopefully soon he can get settled x
You have been a tower of strength to him and you are definitely allowed to wallow xx
Take care lovely x
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Hi Tabs
Ahh glad he is ok and a bit less of a worry for you that he has phoned xx
Ahh glad he is ok and a bit less of a worry for you that he has phoned xx
Glad he is ok Tabs and that you are in turn able to relax a little.
This post gives me so much comfort Tabs, my biggest fear is thoughts of my son living on the streets when he's released, as he'll have no where to live. You've given me a boost.....
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