Giving a statement
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Husband RUI on comms with decoy and iioc. No bail conditions but not allowed to live with me and the children. He denies everything. Been 19 months since the knock. Today the IO called me to say she wants me to give a statement but not tell him about it. IIOCs were found on his mobile which I gave him when I got a new one 8 months before the knock. She says I need to protect myself and give a statement saying I restored factory setting before I gave it to him. Feel like she is using me to boost her case against him but should I give the statement to protect myself? Feel so disloyal and guilty. Any advice?
LizzeLou
I personally would ask for advise on this
Does hubby have a solicitor as yet? If so I would ask before doing anything
The police give the impression they are here to help you etc and they are definitely not
I'm sorry I cant give you more information maybe others here can xx
I personally would ask for advise on this
Does hubby have a solicitor as yet? If so I would ask before doing anything
The police give the impression they are here to help you etc and they are definitely not
I'm sorry I cant give you more information maybe others here can xx
I would take legal advice before you do this. And have a solicitor with you if you decide you're doing it.
The police want what they want.
Sorry I don't have any other advice but don't do it without a solicitor!! Xx
The police want what they want.
Sorry I don't have any other advice but don't do it without a solicitor!! Xx
Legal advise is a good suggestion.
It's one thing to ask you to make a statement to confirm you did a factory reset, but seems off she'd ask you to not tell him. Perhaps there is a comprise on that front.
I'd also do some research on what factory resets actually do, because even if you do this, I understand that it can still leave residue of old data. Was the phone new when you purchased it?
It's one thing to ask you to make a statement to confirm you did a factory reset, but seems off she'd ask you to not tell him. Perhaps there is a comprise on that front.
I'd also do some research on what factory resets actually do, because even if you do this, I understand that it can still leave residue of old data. Was the phone new when you purchased it?
Thanks. It was new from Vodafone so I guess it was not used before, certainly wasnt listed as refurbished. He has a duty solicitor but can I use the same one?
He will definitely plead not guilty but so far there are no charges. But I guess they plan to charge him if they are getting a statement from me?
Are you in dialogue with your husband? I'd image they have the evidence to charge him if they are going to and they've be using your statement to strengthen the case against him (it certainly won't be to help him). The only thing I can think is that in any of his statements he's made to the police he's said he didn't do it because he didn't have the phone at the time they claim he was involved with images and the conversation. If he is just saying it wasn't him and implying they got on there another way then the fact you'd wiped the phone is irrelevant. As Lee says, they will certainly know dates for the conversation and I imagine, on images.
We are still in a dialogue as he visits the children twice a week and only left because he was told to by CS. He says the police didnt tell him the dates so he cant even argue his case on that basis. The arresting officer hinted to me that it was after I handed over the phone. My husband told them during the questioning that he got the phone from me as I'm sure they asked where he got it and that was the truth. He says he didnt do what they are accusing him of and insists the IP address was hacked via the phone. They found the profile photo from the chat and IIOCs on the phone and solicitor said it could be enough for CPS to charge him. After 19 months I still dont know what to believe.
All the dates they have will come out with the evidence. I struggle to see what benefit the statement will have unless they have inconsulive evidence around the dates.
I can understand wanting to protect yourself, particularly as you have children, but I don't see what benefit it brings to the case other than if it went to trial, because bringing you as a witness might have a more emotional impact on the jury.
I don't know what the stance is regarding bringing witnesses to trials because I'd imagine if he's told them the phone was yours, you'd be called upon as a witness regardless - Don't hold me to that.
I think talking to his solicitor would be a good starting point.
I can understand wanting to protect yourself, particularly as you have children, but I don't see what benefit it brings to the case other than if it went to trial, because bringing you as a witness might have a more emotional impact on the jury.
I don't know what the stance is regarding bringing witnesses to trials because I'd imagine if he's told them the phone was yours, you'd be called upon as a witness regardless - Don't hold me to that.
I think talking to his solicitor would be a good starting point.
The police didnt give me a huge amount of info but loads more than some others on here I've read about, so I guess I'm grateful for that. I think they said Skype but it was all a bit vague. He denies using any form of chat except for whatsApp as that's what we used to chat on and has no knowledge of the chat. It was a decoy. The police showed me the profile picture but in printout form so I dont know where it came from. It had the look of a Facebook profile, bit dated in style.
Thanks so much for your support. I feel a bit calmer now. The profile picture was the one used by 'my husband' in the chat and they wanted to know if I recognised the man in the photo. I didnt. We both used skype in the past but not since whatsapp and zoom. Well I haven't anyway and he said he doesnt use it anymore but he will have an account. I feel guilty for giving a statement but I also feel scared that they will come after me. The policeman on the day said it was definitely a man on the chat and that I had nothing to worry about. Think the io is just covering all bases for the cps.
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The woman has manipulated me since the start but I dont want to rock the boat and want to keep her onside because even though I know she is trying to bully me into turning against him she is wasting her time as I dont know anything. But at least she gives me snippets of information so I'm not completely in the dark. Pisses me off that me and the kids are collateral damage in this and now I'm being scared into making a statement. It's a shitty system.
Thanks everyone. X