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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat June 11, 2022 9:34pmReport post

Evening to you all

Well today we had a visit with my son but the difference was it was our first visit with my sons uncle and cousin (it is normally me and my amazing daughter) and to see his face was priceless dont get me wrong he looks forward to our visits but this is the first time he has had Male visitors and the fact they are family just made his day as he thought no one else would want to see him ( his self loathing) it is a day I will never forget to see him smile, laugh and just talk to others apart from us was just incredible xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 9:47pmReport post

Ahhh bless you - that's wonderful Upset, he's a very lucky man to have all your support - what a family!!!!

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

339 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 9:58pmReport post

So happy for you and your son and that today made you and him so happy. They are not animals or monsters, they are still our flesh and blood and they need support and guidance and for us to love them and be there. Your son has wonderful unconditional love from you which is how it should be, we wouldn't be human if we didnt feel the way we do.

SAL

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December 2021

895 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 10:20pmReport post

Isn't it such a relief when you see those small changes, small steps forward, small glimmers of happiness - Glad you had a good visit.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 10:35pmReport post

What true comments BettyBoo / people have tried to push me into abandoning my son/I understand their reasons but as long as I have breathe in my body I will never do that.

Yes he made bad choices, hurt so many people that loved and trusted him, a part I too carnt forgive. But he's the same person deep down - my baby, my boy, my teenager, my adult son - he's NO monster.

Edited Sat June 11, 2022 10:46pm

Upset mum

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June 2020

2401 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 11:02pmReport post

Bettyboo65,Smile, Sal

Honestly it made a huge difference to my son

As a mum we all have the same thing in common our love is unconditional, we gave birth, we nurtured them , we do not for one second condone what they have done but we will always have that bond x

To see him have some family see him was just more than I could wish for

To see his smile, to hear him laugh

His uncle is just an amazing man, his cousin talked about gaming and they talked about books etc honestly I thought my heart would burst

We are very lucky to have a few family members that have not judged as they look past the crime and see my son for who he is and not what he has done

Xx

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Sat June 11, 2022 11:15pmReport post

Hi Upset Mum

It was uplifting to read your post, thank you for sharing this with us.

I am so pleased for you and your son. It is so lovely that he has support and love from all his family. x

Edited Sat June 11, 2022 11:15pm

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat June 11, 2022 11:33pmReport post

Thank you Alison 20 xx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

440 posts

Posted Sun June 12, 2022 5:27amReport post

I'm so glad you got to see your baby smile and that you all enjoyed your visit.xx your sentiments are shared by all of us mums I think - we love our sons. They need us. A lovely post to read xxx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Sun June 12, 2022 5:27amReport post

I'm so glad you got to see your baby smile and that you all enjoyed your visit.xx your sentiments are shared by all of us mums I think - we love our sons. They need us. A lovely post to read xxx

Newlady

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April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sun June 12, 2022 10:20amReport post

This is amazing, I'm sure this gave him a much needed lift and he deserves it. I have sons and I know I'd stick by them no matter what must be so terrible seeing your babies go through this but you are amazing mothers and I'm sure you'll make sure they're lived and supported to get on with their lives after. What a lovely post xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Sun June 12, 2022 4:51pmReport post

Hiya hun.



That's amazing news and sounds like you had a great visit hun.



xx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Sun June 12, 2022 9:52pmReport post

Glad you've had a good day Mum x

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

339 posts

Posted Thu June 16, 2022 10:01amReport post

Hi, yes they are not monsters, they did what they did but they suffer enough with the guilt and remorse and don't need the backlash from people/media. They already feel that the only way out of the dark place is the unmentionable :(, this has been tried by my person but he broke his heart and was inconsolable when the train stopped just before the station and didn't do what he had wished. I am worn out and just want normality again and my happy person back. I'm sure I will get my wish at some point but I need that point to hurry up. Aside of this he is such an intelligent, caring, amiable person who just wants to be happy again following addictions (not porn) and childhood trauma which I never knew off until now. I also add I A SO PROUD OF HIM, PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE x

Bettyboo65

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June 2022

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Posted Thu June 16, 2022 10:56amReport post

Upsetmum, thank you for your kind words, you are an amazing mum but this is just what we do isn't it, we nurture, protect and try to keep them safe, even in adulthood our love is unconditional and has no limits, when they hurt we hurt xx