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Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 7:41amReport post

Morning . I was just thinking if I was so go back to work and put my baby in childcare would I have to tell them anything that's going on . Is it on the forms to begin with I can't remeber

LouFB

Member since
December 2021

45 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 9:21amReport post

Hi,

I'm not sure of your situation but my baby's nursery know about it in our case.
They have to be present during our ss meetings. I also had to make them aware that my husband was not allowed to come and pick him up.
They have been very supportive of me and my children throughout the whole ordeal. X

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 9:57amReport post

O really :/ I have worked in the nurserys round here and have friends in them all so I really don't want to disclose anything unless I have to . I would only be using me and my mum as emergency contacts but I'm not sure if I have to tell them . The school is also in aware hoping I can keep it that way but not sure xx

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 12:17pmReport post

O thought so they havnt told the school yet . Or will they wait till sentencing. Will they just tell the head teacher ? And will I need to go in for a meeting? :(

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 12:31pmReport post

Hello xxx,

I can answer the part about school. It's strange that SS haven't informed school yet - it could be that they have but school are monitoring little one in their own way. They should have their safeguarding policy on their website and should give some indication there as to how they will deal with SS reports.

It is very likely that Headteacher, DSL (safeguarding lead) and class teacher will be made aware, but these people are professionals and will keep to confidentiality rules, it will be on a need to know basis.

Lots of love xx I see you plight with knowing people in the nurseries, I would feel the same. I hope you can do the right thing for you xx

Amilia121

Member since
January 2022

29 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 2:05pmReport post

My daughters nursery was informed by social services that her dad was under investigation about 4 weeks after he was arrested. Her nursery was in all the meetings and was asked to do work with her. This was then passed over to the school she started. The school were well aware before she even began in reception and were present in meetings before she started. I'd of thought social services would of informed them.

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 3:14pmReport post

Thank you I'm not sure if they are closing my case as closes as in he doesn't live with me or go to the school and he can't have unsupervised ect or maybe they have said but havnt told me they know. She's goes to the after school club and it's ran by somone I sued to work with and my friend is a nursery nurse there all young girls so hopefully all the staff arnt aware as I wouldn't like that . It's best the schools ect know I just feel free when I go places and I'm just seen as a normal person I'm liking dropping her off with the other mums as a normal person for time being untill I can no longer face the outside world xxx

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 3:16pmReport post

I know from working in nursery placements that not all info is kept as secret as it should but hopefully somthing serious is . I live right near the school and my house in on the street so everyone knows we're I live and can basilcy see in the window xxx

Ttyh

Member since
August 2021

39 posts

Posted Tue June 14, 2022 8:31pmReport post

My child has been at 2 nurseries, 1 when husband was RUI up until sentancing and 1 whilst he's in prison as we moved. Neither have known. He did not collect our child when at the 1st nursery and he currently isn't on any paperwork for the current nursery and it will be staying that way on his release and he won't be living at the home address. We will see what happens in the future.

We had the initial ss assessment at arrest and 1 more recently for custody face times/calls. We've not had a CIN plan and the neither nurseries were told. I did decline this when they asked to contact them and they never challeneged it as no other concerns were raised. I know it will probably be different with schools but I want to be the one who tells them and manage it not ss and I had that discussion with the past sw and she said that would be ok. Maybe just have a chat with the sw and see what they say?

Woodpecker

Member since
December 2023

26 posts

Posted Fri December 8, 2023 10:35amReport post

My partner has just been arrested under suspicion, I'm not sure if it's better for me to tell nursery now and get him off the child pickup list, or wait until social services inform them?

I know this forum is old, but I figured this is something I should tackle now rather than wait for social services to call.

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Fri December 8, 2023 4:07pmReport post

Hi Woodpecker,

I work in safeguarding, I would talk to the safeguarding lead and get him removed and state that under no circumstances he is allowed to collect your child (this protects them both as it's his bail conditions). SS will be in touch soon. By the time they contacted me 24 hours later I had put so much in place they were more then happy. They are difficult conversations but I feel it helped in the long run.