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I'm 3 weeks in since the knock. I'm thinking all the time if my person will go to prison.. he will never cope. I feel sick for him. I read that it wouldn't be good for him in there.
I know there is nothing I can do and its out of my hands but I can't imagine how he would survive.
I know there is nothing I can do and its out of my hands but I can't imagine how he would survive.
Hi Barb
Sorry you find yourself here
Hope you are looking after yourself
This journey can take so long as you will have read from us all on here
Please try to not worry about if he gets a custodial sentance (easier said than done) but honestly you will drive yourself insane trying to gage if he will get sent to prison
Has he been charged as yet, is he and also yourself got a counsellor to help you both on this journey?
No two sentences have the same outcome it is litterly down to the judge on the day
Sending hugs xx
Sorry you find yourself here
Hope you are looking after yourself
This journey can take so long as you will have read from us all on here
Please try to not worry about if he gets a custodial sentance (easier said than done) but honestly you will drive yourself insane trying to gage if he will get sent to prison
Has he been charged as yet, is he and also yourself got a counsellor to help you both on this journey?
No two sentences have the same outcome it is litterly down to the judge on the day
Sending hugs xx
No he hasn't been charged yet.. he is on bail until the 28th as far as I know.
No we don't have a Councillor he's not talking about it. I think he is trying to block it out. I am moving out as soon as my place is available but have told him I will be here for him.
I have no idea about any of this. I just feel so sad!!
I know it will get easier as time goes on but this is one of the toughest things I've had to face!
I'm so glad I'm not alone though.
No we don't have a Councillor he's not talking about it. I think he is trying to block it out. I am moving out as soon as my place is available but have told him I will be here for him.
I have no idea about any of this. I just feel so sad!!
I know it will get easier as time goes on but this is one of the toughest things I've had to face!
I'm so glad I'm not alone though.
Barb, I feel the same way, I am also worried my partner would not cope at all well with prison due to his physical health problems.
It's so hard not knowing what the outcome is going to be, and that all you can know is the starting penalty for the crime and that if its custodial then it depends on the judge on the day as to whether its not custodial, or a suspended sentence, or if it is custodial, how long that will be for. And then add to that the long wait before it gets to court, and then the long wait for sentencing...and the worry about whether it will be reported in the media and if you can stay in your home, and whether they will get to keep their job or ever be able to work again. If there was a method of mental torture to be devised then this situation would be right up there.
If you go see your gp, they can refer you to counselling and I think there are other organisations that offer counselling specifically for people like us, others on this forum have given names of these organisations.
It's so hard not knowing what the outcome is going to be, and that all you can know is the starting penalty for the crime and that if its custodial then it depends on the judge on the day as to whether its not custodial, or a suspended sentence, or if it is custodial, how long that will be for. And then add to that the long wait before it gets to court, and then the long wait for sentencing...and the worry about whether it will be reported in the media and if you can stay in your home, and whether they will get to keep their job or ever be able to work again. If there was a method of mental torture to be devised then this situation would be right up there.
If you go see your gp, they can refer you to counselling and I think there are other organisations that offer counselling specifically for people like us, others on this forum have given names of these organisations.
Hi Barb,
It would be worth your while giving the helpline a call they can offer some support mechanism for you both, I'm sorry he has buried his head but the sheer shock of having the knock and knowing it is no longer a secret can cause the offender to shut down but it would be beneficial for him to seek help etc
We have no control over this journey or how long it will take either but please look after yourself, dont rush in to having to make decisions try to take a day at a time
Sending hugs xx
It would be worth your while giving the helpline a call they can offer some support mechanism for you both, I'm sorry he has buried his head but the sheer shock of having the knock and knowing it is no longer a secret can cause the offender to shut down but it would be beneficial for him to seek help etc
We have no control over this journey or how long it will take either but please look after yourself, dont rush in to having to make decisions try to take a day at a time
Sending hugs xx
As its already been said Barb - the absolute shock of the knock is hard enough. The rest will become clear over the coming weeks.. give yourselves a bit of time whilst you process the knock itself.
I couldn't even think about accessing this website in the first few weeks, I was smashed into a million pieces, but it all comes about.. I can't stop reading and seeking information now and my son is engaged in help for his situation.
Stay connected on here - there is so much knowledge and experience.
Much love x x
I couldn't even think about accessing this website in the first few weeks, I was smashed into a million pieces, but it all comes about.. I can't stop reading and seeking information now and my son is engaged in help for his situation.
Stay connected on here - there is so much knowledge and experience.
Much love x x
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