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So 2 days ago we were made to tell oh brother and sister in law due to having contact with their children and him signing the SOR.
It was awful they said they need time to let it sink in and we haven't heard from them since. Do we drop them a message to say I hope you're ok?
they will be getting a call from social services too - what will this entail? I pray they don't have to go thru an assessment?
It was awful they said they need time to let it sink in and we haven't heard from them since. Do we drop them a message to say I hope you're ok?
they will be getting a call from social services too - what will this entail? I pray they don't have to go thru an assessment?
Hi jayjay,
when my sister was contacted it was by her local social services, she said it was a quick phone call. They asked her what she knew of his offences and how she would safeguard my niece/nephew.
she said they were nice, it was just a quick phone call making sure they were aware of the situation. No assessment and no contact from them since that phone call xx
when my sister was contacted it was by her local social services, she said it was a quick phone call. They asked her what she knew of his offences and how she would safeguard my niece/nephew.
she said they were nice, it was just a quick phone call making sure they were aware of the situation. No assessment and no contact from them since that phone call xx
The SS wanted to interview my cousin before agreeing to letting my partner have contact whilst supervised. My aunt and uncle were ok for contact to happen as long as it was family events only. My aunt and uncle were not happy for my cousin to be interviewed as they didn't want him to know about the offending. He doesn't know my partner very well anyway.
Thankfully SS backed off. I think they would only be concerned if it was more extended contact. My partner sees my family every couple of months for a few hours at a time -bdays, anniversaries etc.
Give them some space and hopefully they will get back to you on how they are feeling.
Thankfully SS backed off. I think they would only be concerned if it was more extended contact. My partner sees my family every couple of months for a few hours at a time -bdays, anniversaries etc.
Give them some space and hopefully they will get back to you on how they are feeling.
Hopefully they just need some time to think and they will come round how u getting on? If my partner was to attend a chrsiting or family Avent what would happen and who would need to know? Or is every case different xx
Xx this will be dependent on the restrictions set. For example my partner cannot attend family or friends events (or work events) that will have (or high risk of having) kids present unless all parents and guardians and SS are ok with contact.
My partner cannot attend family events on one side of my family because there are young kids and I do not want to disclose to the parents. I would not risk trying to 'get away with it' because not all police give second chances and breaches are serious.
We both stupidly forgot the fact disclosure was needed for contact with under 16s, we thought as long as he was supervised it was ok and thought the condition meant contact alone with a child- but it means basically being in the presence of children that you are not just walk by (like you would at a supermarket)
My partner was warned the police would not allow him to breach again without stronger consequences
My partner cannot attend family events on one side of my family because there are young kids and I do not want to disclose to the parents. I would not risk trying to 'get away with it' because not all police give second chances and breaches are serious.
We both stupidly forgot the fact disclosure was needed for contact with under 16s, we thought as long as he was supervised it was ok and thought the condition meant contact alone with a child- but it means basically being in the presence of children that you are not just walk by (like you would at a supermarket)
My partner was warned the police would not allow him to breach again without stronger consequences
Thanks for the reassurance about SS. I did text my SW to ask and they haven't bothered to reply!
They live in the next county, although not far it will be a different SS.
Aunty has told us today that they both have not took it well unfortunately :(
I did remind them on the day that me and the kids had done nothing wrong.
it may be that we've lost them as well as the 2 friends we've told, or maybe they need time. I have found that when telling men about the crime committed they take it worse than the woman.
They live in the next county, although not far it will be a different SS.
Aunty has told us today that they both have not took it well unfortunately :(
I did remind them on the day that me and the kids had done nothing wrong.
it may be that we've lost them as well as the 2 friends we've told, or maybe they need time. I have found that when telling men about the crime committed they take it worse than the woman.
Hi Jayjay
Sorry to hear that your relatives are struggling with the news.
Hopefully in time they will understand the situation and that you are at no fault what so ever and therefore shouldn't be punished.
None of us will forget the initial shock of something like this, it's only with time that we can process things and gain knowledge into understanding so hopefully it will be the same for them.
Maybe guide them to this forum if you haven't done so already, as reading other people's journeys opens your eyes and changes opinions.
Hope you are ok.
Sorry to hear that your relatives are struggling with the news.
Hopefully in time they will understand the situation and that you are at no fault what so ever and therefore shouldn't be punished.
None of us will forget the initial shock of something like this, it's only with time that we can process things and gain knowledge into understanding so hopefully it will be the same for them.
Maybe guide them to this forum if you haven't done so already, as reading other people's journeys opens your eyes and changes opinions.
Hope you are ok.