The lost friends
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Evening all
I have been talking to a friend of my son today
She was shocked to hear what happened as she read it on the police website;-( as someone sent her the link (great)
She just wanted to say she wished him well but she cant contact him as she works in a school
I am glad for the communication but at the same time it has made me feel shit
What they have done is awful
But please look at the person you knew before the media reported
He is human, he is a young man that had issues
He is a young man that had no self esteem
He is a young man that diddnt see himself in the way we did
He is a young man that struggles with his mental health because of the above reasons
He is a young man that got lost in this journey
He is a young man that obviously has porn addiction
He is a good young person
He is a young person that has got no self belief and has got so deep he couldn't get out of
He is a young person that has effected real victims and that I cannot forget
But he is my son, we have been to hell and back but we are here for him every step of this journey
If I could offer any advice to all the mums on here it would be you are so strong and it dosent matter what other think or want you to do our love is unconditional no matter what xx
I have been talking to a friend of my son today
She was shocked to hear what happened as she read it on the police website;-( as someone sent her the link (great)
She just wanted to say she wished him well but she cant contact him as she works in a school
I am glad for the communication but at the same time it has made me feel shit
What they have done is awful
But please look at the person you knew before the media reported
He is human, he is a young man that had issues
He is a young man that had no self esteem
He is a young man that diddnt see himself in the way we did
He is a young man that struggles with his mental health because of the above reasons
He is a young man that got lost in this journey
He is a young man that obviously has porn addiction
He is a good young person
He is a young person that has got no self belief and has got so deep he couldn't get out of
He is a young person that has effected real victims and that I cannot forget
But he is my son, we have been to hell and back but we are here for him every step of this journey
If I could offer any advice to all the mums on here it would be you are so strong and it dosent matter what other think or want you to do our love is unconditional no matter what xx
Our stories really match..... your words are so very true Upset. X
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Evening my dear friend
Honestly I feel gutted
If they could see the person before this
Hope you son is doing ok and you xx
Honestly I feel gutted
If they could see the person before this
Hope you son is doing ok and you xx
Polly
I was so grateful for her message and I totally understand her side
My heart is broken but in time it will heal
But no matter what my love is unconditional no matter how hard this is
I will always be there for my son xx
I was so grateful for her message and I totally understand her side
My heart is broken but in time it will heal
But no matter what my love is unconditional no matter how hard this is
I will always be there for my son xx
Well said Upset!
Although I'm not a mum myself I totally empathise with you.
Like Polly said at least your son's friend had the courage to speak to you personally, maybe given time her view might change.
Although I'm not a mum myself I totally empathise with you.
Like Polly said at least your son's friend had the courage to speak to you personally, maybe given time her view might change.
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Daffodil
Just perfect in the way you worerd it xz
My light will always shine xx
Just perfect in the way you worerd it xz
My light will always shine xx
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Morning Smile
Such strength you carry and you are so right people can have there own opinions but they cannot take away our love for our sons xx
He has done amazing with what he has faced I would to be so proud xx
I hope your dad is getting better x
Hugs xx
Such strength you carry and you are so right people can have there own opinions but they cannot take away our love for our sons xx
He has done amazing with what he has faced I would to be so proud xx
I hope your dad is getting better x
Hugs xx
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Oh bless him at least he is still smiling I wish him well, such an awful illness isn't it xx
Keep strong Smile hugs as always xx
Keep strong Smile hugs as always xx
Hi Upset Mum and all the other mums on here, i totally feel for you.
You are right, they are human beings and they are the same human being as they were before the knock and all that follows. They dont suddenly become monsters without feelings. My person too has no self esteem, struggles with mental health and doesn't see himself as we see him. I adore and cherish him and always will, regardless of any crime committed, he is my best friend and my rock in life although he doesn't believe me and sees no future for himself going forward.
I don't condone what he did but I understand the dark place he got too due to childhood trauma which he never spoke of until now, childhood trauma followed by drug and drink issues to deaden his own tortured feelings, followed by outpourings of mental anguish and feelings that he has no real place in this world.
He is a good person too and he is my blood so I will never turn my back on him, our love for them is unconditional and we will be here always and forever.
we have been waiting 8 months and I'm sure for all of us each day is a struggle to make sure they wake and function in some sort of normal way. Hopefully this will be sorted in a humane and dignified way soon so he can have a future and continue therapy to unravel the issues that plague him.
No-one sees their anguish and torment, they only see the crime and the suffering of the victim, it needs to be made public that these crimes are committed to the most part by persons with their own very real issues and struggles and torment in their lifes that lead them to do what they do :(
sorry for spouting :) I hope you all have a lovely weekend and can enjoy the most part of it xxx
You are right, they are human beings and they are the same human being as they were before the knock and all that follows. They dont suddenly become monsters without feelings. My person too has no self esteem, struggles with mental health and doesn't see himself as we see him. I adore and cherish him and always will, regardless of any crime committed, he is my best friend and my rock in life although he doesn't believe me and sees no future for himself going forward.
I don't condone what he did but I understand the dark place he got too due to childhood trauma which he never spoke of until now, childhood trauma followed by drug and drink issues to deaden his own tortured feelings, followed by outpourings of mental anguish and feelings that he has no real place in this world.
He is a good person too and he is my blood so I will never turn my back on him, our love for them is unconditional and we will be here always and forever.
we have been waiting 8 months and I'm sure for all of us each day is a struggle to make sure they wake and function in some sort of normal way. Hopefully this will be sorted in a humane and dignified way soon so he can have a future and continue therapy to unravel the issues that plague him.
No-one sees their anguish and torment, they only see the crime and the suffering of the victim, it needs to be made public that these crimes are committed to the most part by persons with their own very real issues and struggles and torment in their lifes that lead them to do what they do :(
sorry for spouting :) I hope you all have a lovely weekend and can enjoy the most part of it xxx
Bettyboo65
I 100% agree with what you have said in your post
Sending strength and hugs to you xx
I 100% agree with what you have said in your post
Sending strength and hugs to you xx
Smile...
What a beautiful post.
No other words needed xxx
What a beautiful post.
No other words needed xxx
I'd love to leave my posts on but worry family members might come across them and by detail put two and two together. It hurts as I'd like to feel I was helping people on the forum x
So glad I got to read it before you deleted it. I know I'm the same frightened of anyone with ill intent reading things. Hope your all good xx
With me Hope - it's more the fear of family members reading it. Ultimations given and not kept......
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