Trial separation
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Hi Blackhound,
I am sorry to hear this but u have to do wat u have to do to get through this x sending love and hugs ur way xx
I am sorry to hear this but u have to do wat u have to do to get through this x sending love and hugs ur way xx
Hi Blackhound, sorry you're going through this. I'm also separated from my husband the last 6 months but continue to support him as a friend.
I'm still at the stage of feeling very resentful towards him because the arrest was only the beginning of this nightmare for us. He lost his job, we lost our home, destroyed my maternity leave, myself and our baby now live with his parents.
I think that's why we argue so much, the smallest things now grate on my nerves. And if I'm honest I've lost my respect for him. I just see him as weak or not masculine etc. Or when I want to talk things through with his offence he clams up and starts crying. He says he is so sorry but then makes very little effort to work on our marriage.
Similar to your story I find myself constantly arguing with him, even if he has a nice day out playing golf with a work friend it eats me up because I've been left as a new single mother and my life now compared to this time last year is unrecognisable.
It's a no-win situation, i do love him so when he's feeling down I worry about his mental health but if he's having a great day I feel really bitter because he destroyed our lives. He's living young free and single, no responsibilities, no social workers, earning money with a new job.
So we've decided to take a big step back from eachother because I'm basically a single mother doing everything alone anyway. I don't think us being together is helping anything. I feel guilty after every argument and he cries. and round in circles we go.
I'm still at the stage of feeling very resentful towards him because the arrest was only the beginning of this nightmare for us. He lost his job, we lost our home, destroyed my maternity leave, myself and our baby now live with his parents.
I think that's why we argue so much, the smallest things now grate on my nerves. And if I'm honest I've lost my respect for him. I just see him as weak or not masculine etc. Or when I want to talk things through with his offence he clams up and starts crying. He says he is so sorry but then makes very little effort to work on our marriage.
Similar to your story I find myself constantly arguing with him, even if he has a nice day out playing golf with a work friend it eats me up because I've been left as a new single mother and my life now compared to this time last year is unrecognisable.
It's a no-win situation, i do love him so when he's feeling down I worry about his mental health but if he's having a great day I feel really bitter because he destroyed our lives. He's living young free and single, no responsibilities, no social workers, earning money with a new job.
So we've decided to take a big step back from eachother because I'm basically a single mother doing everything alone anyway. I don't think us being together is helping anything. I feel guilty after every argument and he cries. and round in circles we go.
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