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GreenYellow

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Upset mum

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Posted Wed July 6, 2022 3:30pmReport post

Hi GreenYellow

Is the hearing for his plea? If so his sentancing should be between 4 -6 weeks after

There is so much to worry about and the fact its getting nearer heightens those emotions even more , this is totally out of our control

As for the media it is a game of roulette if it is printed or not

My sons case was reported on the police website that was then shared on the wonderful media platforms and they exaggerated it beyond belief, but we have had nothing but support by a few and I am sure a lot of others know but they havent said anything, you will have the keyboard warriors who think the evil crap they say is important but it is not the only people that matter are the ones who care and to be honest it was old news a few days later

You have done nothing wrong so dont let this impact your decisions you have to do what is right for you xx

GreenYellow

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Smile through tears

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Upset mum

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Posted Thu July 7, 2022 3:41pmReport post

Afternoon GreenYellow

Easier said than done your mind will be in overdrive, it is hit and miss if it is reported in the media

Nothing at my sons plea but after sentancing it was out there again as hard as it is it is beyond our control

Deep breath you have honestly got this even if at times you feel like you cannot cope you will

We have all been there so totally understand how you are feeling

Be kind to yourself hugs sent xx



Smile my dear friend I do not ever think I would believe what the police tell me ever again not that I ever want any more dealings with them and pray to god I never do but at least release the true facts :-(

How is your lad has he been able to get out or still COVID rules?

Hope your dad and of course yourself is ok xx

GreenYellow

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Posted Thu July 7, 2022 10:10pmReport post

I'm sorry you both had to experience this too. But thank you so so much, I am so scare, but it is comforting to hear that you have both riden this horrendous storm and come out of the otherwise positive x

Smile through tears

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PR

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Posted Fri July 8, 2022 2:56pmReport post

My OH hit the press and it was pretty horrendous to be honest! But the judge did ask the press not to print the address because of our children.... photo was there etc so still obvious who it is. But it does avoid any vigilante groups.
But I have to say, I have t had any trouble at home. Oh yes I've had friends walk away never to be seen again, but the good friends are there to listen and be supportive.
For me the fear was worse than the reality. Once it was there, I just thought well I can't control this now, so let's just see what happens.
I didn't want to move as my children were settled at school etc, and they have not had any grief luckily either.
But I am lucky to live in a nice area, and everyone's situation will be different.
I am just in the opinion, wait and see, it may not be as bad as you think, have a plan to run away for a few days, and then let the dust settle.
My OH got a custodial sentence so in a way that made me safer, and I'm very aware that I may have to rethink relocating once out! But By then it will be old news and people may avoid us, but there is always someone you have as a supportive friend, but get out of it ever becomes unsafe for you or your partner.

Upset mum

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Posted Fri July 8, 2022 10:19pmReport post

Smile aww bless him your dad is strong l wonder who you take after:-)

Glad you are ok x

My son has done ok with education he is going to do a Diploma I told him take whatever you can it will keep him pre occupied and god knows he needs something, he has stopped self harming so a little light in sight but it dosent take away my anxiety

Xx

I hope your son manages to get another job x

And glad to hear he is ok xx

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Upset mum

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Posted Fri July 8, 2022 10:37pmReport post

PR

I am glad you are ok x what sentance did he get? How is he coping?

The media coverage is horrendous in the way they report it but like you I have had no repercussions x