Dealing With The Media
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So I've finally decided to ask for some help, Our Journey with the knock began in Nov 2020.
Yesterday My son was finally sentenced with a 3 year community order and a 35 rehabilitation activity requirement... to say my emotions were all over the show is an understatement. But relief that he didnt get a custodial sentence which had been a possibility.
Today however I feel so sad as this has appeared in the local rag for all and sundrey to see and comment on and pass judgement !! How does this help, he will in all probability loose his job and become isolated as this is where it all came from with the 1st lockdown. I really am becoming concerned again for his mental health....
Even after the sentence it never ends
Yesterday My son was finally sentenced with a 3 year community order and a 35 rehabilitation activity requirement... to say my emotions were all over the show is an understatement. But relief that he didnt get a custodial sentence which had been a possibility.
Today however I feel so sad as this has appeared in the local rag for all and sundrey to see and comment on and pass judgement !! How does this help, he will in all probability loose his job and become isolated as this is where it all came from with the 1st lockdown. I really am becoming concerned again for his mental health....
Even after the sentence it never ends
Just replied to you on another thread.
Were media in court? Magistrates or crown? My oh was given suspended sentenced yesterday, no media in court but I am so nervous it will hit.
Discuss with his PO about support and mental health. Has he got a therapist/counsellor - get him booked in.
i really hope post sentencing that things get easier and we can start to rebuild our lives. Hugs x
Were media in court? Magistrates or crown? My oh was given suspended sentenced yesterday, no media in court but I am so nervous it will hit.
Discuss with his PO about support and mental health. Has he got a therapist/counsellor - get him booked in.
i really hope post sentencing that things get easier and we can start to rebuild our lives. Hugs x
Thanks Jay Jay, There was a reporter in the crown court and obviously I knew then that he was going to be in the papers. Where I live this is constantly in the local papers it seems they relish in others misfortune & it SELLS papers.
His first appointment with PO is next week so will need to discuss the possibility of a Therapist/counsellor...
Hugs to u to
His first appointment with PO is next week so will need to discuss the possibility of a Therapist/counsellor...
Hugs to u to
Hi,
My person was reported in the media too, the day after I gave birth to our daughter. The article actually mentioned our unborn daughter which I found the hardest thing to deal with. Police had it removed from the local paper's social media and I believe they removed the original article from everywhere online but it was picked up by neighbouring towns newspapers too and a database website. Managed to get it removed from most of them, didn't contact the database site as appears to be run by vigilante types and I don't want any harm to come to my loved ones. Only backlash either of us have had is from someone I used to work with who shouted abuse at him. It does become old news very quickly. Sending hugs to you and your son xx
My person was reported in the media too, the day after I gave birth to our daughter. The article actually mentioned our unborn daughter which I found the hardest thing to deal with. Police had it removed from the local paper's social media and I believe they removed the original article from everywhere online but it was picked up by neighbouring towns newspapers too and a database website. Managed to get it removed from most of them, didn't contact the database site as appears to be run by vigilante types and I don't want any harm to come to my loved ones. Only backlash either of us have had is from someone I used to work with who shouted abuse at him. It does become old news very quickly. Sending hugs to you and your son xx
Distressed and Pregnant, how did you go about getting it removed from the papers?
I emailed the editors. Told them that I believed it went against their code of conduct as it identified my daughter. Some of the articles still show the headline when I search his name but it says link not found when you click to view it xx
Hi Distressed & Pregnant,
I'm so sorry that happened to you on what should have been one of the happiest times in your life.
I realise already after just one day his story is no longer any where near the top of the list of crime reporting in this area. I hope people who saw it and know us will be kind and others who relish in others misfortune their opinion is of no consequenece to my family.
No one knows the back story to any of our peoples journey's .
I'm so sorry that happened to you on what should have been one of the happiest times in your life.
I realise already after just one day his story is no longer any where near the top of the list of crime reporting in this area. I hope people who saw it and know us will be kind and others who relish in others misfortune their opinion is of no consequenece to my family.
No one knows the back story to any of our peoples journey's .
It really is heartbreaking, these men are being punished every day and going through hell. To me the media represents a public flogging.
Why do their cases remain on platforms too? How can this help as they struggle to get their lives back and work to rehabilitate. It's a noose round the necks of their innocent families too.
Keep it on so long then erase, it serves no purpose for offenders or victims.
Why do their cases remain on platforms too? How can this help as they struggle to get their lives back and work to rehabilitate. It's a noose round the necks of their innocent families too.
Keep it on so long then erase, it serves no purpose for offenders or victims.
Smile,
Quite agree.
My son's case hit the media both at his plea hearing and sentencing. We've quite a distinctive name so he's changed his to avoid the 'Google' effect.
Hopefully this will help him moving forward.
Hugs to everyone in this unholy mess xxxx
Quite agree.
My son's case hit the media both at his plea hearing and sentencing. We've quite a distinctive name so he's changed his to avoid the 'Google' effect.
Hopefully this will help him moving forward.
Hugs to everyone in this unholy mess xxxx
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Hi Another Mum,
How difficult was it for your son to change his name ?
I havent really considered that as a possibility
How difficult was it for your son to change his name ?
I havent really considered that as a possibility
Hi Sadmum
Not very difficult, just time consuming.
If he has two people who are not related and are prepared to act as witnesses, it can be done very cheaply using online deed polls. In my son's case, he didn't so we had to do a Statutory Declaration using solicitors.
After that paperwork is done, it's just a matter of going through all the bureaucracy to change bank accounts, driving licence, passport and everything else
Don't forget if it is post sentencing to report the changes to the police for the SOR. Xxx
Not very difficult, just time consuming.
If he has two people who are not related and are prepared to act as witnesses, it can be done very cheaply using online deed polls. In my son's case, he didn't so we had to do a Statutory Declaration using solicitors.
After that paperwork is done, it's just a matter of going through all the bureaucracy to change bank accounts, driving licence, passport and everything else
Don't forget if it is post sentencing to report the changes to the police for the SOR. Xxx
Thanks so much for that information I think it is something I need to look into as like you my son has a very unusual surname maybe now is the time to ditch it.
I worry it will single him out for abuse we live in a very small town
I worry it will single him out for abuse we live in a very small town