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Today a special celebration. Had a lovely day - a tinge of sadness here and there but it can be done, you can feel 'normal' ! Feeling uplifted x
Kinda needed this...
I'm thinking of cancelling my brithday party this year because everyone who will attend will know my partner maybe there... So I'm not even sure it's worth it having to be apprehensive about everything and everyone...
I'm thinking of cancelling my brithday party this year because everyone who will attend will know my partner maybe there... So I'm not even sure it's worth it having to be apprehensive about everything and everyone...
To be honest I avoid gatherings/parties of any kind. I know we've travelled down the line now but I still get stressed about being in a situation if someone (who doesn't know) asks about my son......
Celebration hugs my dear friend Smile :-) x
Glad you had a lovely day ( though not far from your thoughts) you so deserve to have a little bit of normality and it lifts you up so pleased for you xx
Glad you had a lovely day ( though not far from your thoughts) you so deserve to have a little bit of normality and it lifts you up so pleased for you xx
Are there many people know who about your son Upset?
Eeryone and their mum's know about my partners crime. Beneath it all I know they all think he's trash. They all think I deserve better given his attitude, his previous depression, alcoholism ect...
Its starting to wear me down so much. So I think maybe cancelling the entire thing and just doing about forty separate things things with people might be a better idea... But I genuinely don't have the mental capacity to do that... If I hold one big party it's done then.
Eeryone and their mum's know about my partners crime. Beneath it all I know they all think he's trash. They all think I deserve better given his attitude, his previous depression, alcoholism ect...
Its starting to wear me down so much. So I think maybe cancelling the entire thing and just doing about forty separate things things with people might be a better idea... But I genuinely don't have the mental capacity to do that... If I hold one big party it's done then.
Evening Blackhound
A few close family members who we told before his sentancing as I diddnt want them to find out from the media
It was plastered all over the police website so there are many that do know no one has asked me outright but a few messaged me with empathy and if I wanted to talk they are there
My daughter had a lot of people message her as they knew he was her brother but again messages of support
But his 2 best friends have walked away i just hope in time they come back in to his life as I know how much he needs them x
It's old news now but will be out there forever
If you made the decision to stay with your other half then that is your choice
Why should you cancel your party we all have to make a life as we only get one shot at it
People will always have opinions and some will be non judgemental but unfortunately because of the crime so will be but you can only do what is right for you
You have been through so much so allowing you to do what you want to for your birthday dont let negativity change your thoughts xxx
A few close family members who we told before his sentancing as I diddnt want them to find out from the media
It was plastered all over the police website so there are many that do know no one has asked me outright but a few messaged me with empathy and if I wanted to talk they are there
My daughter had a lot of people message her as they knew he was her brother but again messages of support
But his 2 best friends have walked away i just hope in time they come back in to his life as I know how much he needs them x
It's old news now but will be out there forever
If you made the decision to stay with your other half then that is your choice
Why should you cancel your party we all have to make a life as we only get one shot at it
People will always have opinions and some will be non judgemental but unfortunately because of the crime so will be but you can only do what is right for you
You have been through so much so allowing you to do what you want to for your birthday dont let negativity change your thoughts xxx
Blackhound I would think it depends on how strong you're feeling as to whether or not your party goes ahead. If you're not feeling strong, then postpone it, there is no point doing it if you're thinking it will be an ordeal.
However, if you're feeling strong you could send out your invitations, ask for rsvps so you know who's coming and don't over or under cater, and se what happens. It will be a good way to find out who your friends are now, who is supporting you and who is just there to gossip.
However, if you're feeling strong you could send out your invitations, ask for rsvps so you know who's coming and don't over or under cater, and se what happens. It will be a good way to find out who your friends are now, who is supporting you and who is just there to gossip.
Hi ladies -- my sons case ended up being reported on everything - radio, many local newspapers, local crime websites/fb so I felt everybody new. As regards friends - I've told them as much as I want to.
BUT as Upset says it soon becomes old news but unfortunately only a few taps away and that breaks my heart.
I remember being very nervous about our first family gathering but it was lovely and 'normal' but even tho time has passed I carnt face a get together with friends - it'd stress me out too much :(
BUT as Upset says it soon becomes old news but unfortunately only a few taps away and that breaks my heart.
I remember being very nervous about our first family gathering but it was lovely and 'normal' but even tho time has passed I carnt face a get together with friends - it'd stress me out too much :(