Does anyone know what actually happens now?
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So long story short, on 6th January my partner and baby's dad was arrested for being in some sort of kik group chat and distributing and downloading 33 cat a b and c images. He also had sexual conversations with an undercover officer he believed was underage. He (thank God!) declined meeting up.
He was arrested, interviewed and all our devices were seized, even mine, and haven't yet been returned (July). Originally he was bailed for a month, and couldn't return to our address as we have a young child. Because of the nature of his upbringing, it ended up that me and our son had to be the ones to stay with family. Then he was allowed to return (I was) and was bailed until April but couldn't have any unsupervised contact (which ofc I completely understand). Bail was then extended another six months, to October. With the police officer in charge saying they are unlikely to need all of that time.
Social services said that they didn't deem him to be a direct threat to our child and that I was a protective factor and have closed their case.
Since all of this happened I have found out alot about his childhood and horrific things he suffered and that basically he has been addicted to porn and masterbating since he was a child.
Rightly or wrongly, I've chosen to stay with him and support him, obviously second to my child. My child's safety has always and will always come first.
My question is basically what happens now? I'm assuming we will have to wait until October, but what happens then, are they likely to extend it again? Can they just extend it indefinitely? Will he get a chance to explain how he ended up here? The police don't seem to be saying much.
He was arrested, interviewed and all our devices were seized, even mine, and haven't yet been returned (July). Originally he was bailed for a month, and couldn't return to our address as we have a young child. Because of the nature of his upbringing, it ended up that me and our son had to be the ones to stay with family. Then he was allowed to return (I was) and was bailed until April but couldn't have any unsupervised contact (which ofc I completely understand). Bail was then extended another six months, to October. With the police officer in charge saying they are unlikely to need all of that time.
Social services said that they didn't deem him to be a direct threat to our child and that I was a protective factor and have closed their case.
Since all of this happened I have found out alot about his childhood and horrific things he suffered and that basically he has been addicted to porn and masterbating since he was a child.
Rightly or wrongly, I've chosen to stay with him and support him, obviously second to my child. My child's safety has always and will always come first.
My question is basically what happens now? I'm assuming we will have to wait until October, but what happens then, are they likely to extend it again? Can they just extend it indefinitely? Will he get a chance to explain how he ended up here? The police don't seem to be saying much.
Hi. Your partners case sounds very similar to mine and i'm so sorry this has happened to you.
My husband was arrested in June last year and he wasn't allowed home while on bail. SS put an agreement in place for him to come home with me supervising him with the kids. They even wrote that he would come home before i had decided if i wanted him to.
Have the police given you a timescale for looking at the devices? On the day of the knock they said it would be 8 months but in the end it was nearly 10 months.
In April they arrested him again and he is back on bail and has had to move out again. He had a 2nd interview with police where they told him some of what they found but said that they were still investigating.
Right now we've had the social workers assessment back and the police have said they are close to the end of the investigation so possibly going to cps soon.
My husband was arrested in June last year and he wasn't allowed home while on bail. SS put an agreement in place for him to come home with me supervising him with the kids. They even wrote that he would come home before i had decided if i wanted him to.
Have the police given you a timescale for looking at the devices? On the day of the knock they said it would be 8 months but in the end it was nearly 10 months.
In April they arrested him again and he is back on bail and has had to move out again. He had a 2nd interview with police where they told him some of what they found but said that they were still investigating.
Right now we've had the social workers assessment back and the police have said they are close to the end of the investigation so possibly going to cps soon.
Thankyou both for your replies.
We still haven't heard anything, no update, no idea of time scales. Just gotta keep waiting I guess.
It's just crap. Really crap. Due to having no childcare I'm now stuck in 24/7 I can't even go to the shop without my son and not after bedtime ofc.
Honestly it feels like I'm the one being punished when his life hasn't changed all that much. Like it's just been forgotten. No update from police since April when they extended his bail.
And its lonely.
I guess it's just a case of waiting.
We still haven't heard anything, no update, no idea of time scales. Just gotta keep waiting I guess.
It's just crap. Really crap. Due to having no childcare I'm now stuck in 24/7 I can't even go to the shop without my son and not after bedtime ofc.
Honestly it feels like I'm the one being punished when his life hasn't changed all that much. Like it's just been forgotten. No update from police since April when they extended his bail.
And its lonely.
I guess it's just a case of waiting.
Thankyou. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today.