SS back in our live AGAIN!!
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My ex got convicted of possession of a very low number of pseudo images in mid 2021 after the initial knock in early 2019. He got a £200 fine and 5 years on the SOR no SHPO. Social services closed our case in July 2019 with no further action. He moved out three years ago but sees the kids daily. Now last week social services have received an "anonymous tip" that he's living with myself and the kids!? And now we have to go back through the whole process again and 3 years after the initial knock he's never to be allowed to be alone with the kids again at all, not even whilst I go to the toilet. I honestly feel like giving up. This just keeps dragging this on and on and on. When ever I feel like I've got somewhere something just keeps dragging me back. I don't know what to do. I'm just so tired of it all.
Nope no SHPO, no restrictions,no contact from them in three years, case closed after initial assessment. They've called and said he's to have no unsupervised contact but "don't worry because it'll look good for him sticking to no unsupervised when he goes Infront of a judge in court in a few years". Like... What!? What judge???!? So now they're contacting all the schools again and questioning the kids this week.
He's seen a police guy twice in a year who just has a general chat about how he's getting on and once because he got a new bank card. The only thing we've signed is the initial section 47 three years ago before the case was closed. Surely that can't still stand after having zero contact with them and the case being closed?? I've agreed to let them speak to schools because she put me on the spot to be honest. I'm just so sick of it all.
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Sounds to me the SS person you are dealing with is clueless about how the SOR works, that perhaps they think at the end of the SOR your partner goes back to court?
I think I have seen this kind of thing happen before, SS don't follow up on closed cases but when they get wind of something that peaks their interest they go OTT.
Not exactly related but someone 'tipped off' the authorities that my step dad was living with us (my mum had single parent benefits). He came over for two nights a week at most and stay most of the day after work. We never found out who reported but I have my suspicions- just bitter people.
Also surely the visor would have been told of the same report as it would be a breach of the SOR? That notification is needed to stay overnight with a child. Hopefully you can get SS to back off, the family rights group may also be able to help.
I don't envy those with kids dealing with SS, I find all the terms confusing when it comes to the various plans and agreements. Tho if it is anything like CAFCASS they seem to be all over the place with their logic
I think I have seen this kind of thing happen before, SS don't follow up on closed cases but when they get wind of something that peaks their interest they go OTT.
Not exactly related but someone 'tipped off' the authorities that my step dad was living with us (my mum had single parent benefits). He came over for two nights a week at most and stay most of the day after work. We never found out who reported but I have my suspicions- just bitter people.
Also surely the visor would have been told of the same report as it would be a breach of the SOR? That notification is needed to stay overnight with a child. Hopefully you can get SS to back off, the family rights group may also be able to help.
I don't envy those with kids dealing with SS, I find all the terms confusing when it comes to the various plans and agreements. Tho if it is anything like CAFCASS they seem to be all over the place with their logic