Making a choice
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I am also only 2 weeks in. I am fortunate enough that my children are young and to this point they have no idea that life is any different. I have decided not to make a quick decision, I want my family to survive this. I don't believe my husband is a bad man, he just did bad things. The biggest thing is my absolute lack of trust that I have in him, that will be what breaks us.
From what I have researched, if childrens services have any idea that you have split, they make it very difficult to reunite.
You have to do what is best for you x
From what I have researched, if childrens services have any idea that you have split, they make it very difficult to reunite.
You have to do what is best for you x
Hi,
None of us in this situation are weak whatever decisions we make. We separated at the knock because I was so incredibly scared and lacking in knowledge. My older children don't have anything to do with him (not their dad), we are both in financial difficulties due to him losing his job and I've been left with trust issues so decided to stay at home until little one can communication.
Whatever you decide it is hard and there will always be "what ifs". Give your son some space to process things. I'm two years in and my older ones will talk about him now in a neutral way, baby steps are still steps. You don't have to have all the answers right now or indeed ever, make the decisions that are right for you at the time xx
None of us in this situation are weak whatever decisions we make. We separated at the knock because I was so incredibly scared and lacking in knowledge. My older children don't have anything to do with him (not their dad), we are both in financial difficulties due to him losing his job and I've been left with trust issues so decided to stay at home until little one can communication.
Whatever you decide it is hard and there will always be "what ifs". Give your son some space to process things. I'm two years in and my older ones will talk about him now in a neutral way, baby steps are still steps. You don't have to have all the answers right now or indeed ever, make the decisions that are right for you at the time xx
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Maybe explain to your son he has every right to feel the way he does, and then try explaining why you feel the way you do. Neither of you are wrong, and it is a different kind of relationship between father and son than it is between husband and wife. Is he still living in the same house? If not, for the timebeing if you need to see him can it be at times when your son is at school, clubs or a friend's house?
Hi - I think Anon has worded it just right. People expect a blanket response to (I suppose any kind of crime) but this one is a hell of a lot more emotional and rips into relationships.
I never condone what my son has done but even though a grown man I will do my best to support and help him get back on the right track, always have done and always will.
Other family members have different views, these views could change they might not, but I just accept it now. I've learnt to realise I have to look after myself and as hard as I try (as a mum) you strive, but it's impossible to slot it all back into place as it was.x sad as it is -- family life has changed and I just try to rebuild and adapt to these changes. Do admit tho, it's been damn hard and ive suffered a lot of stress.
I never condone what my son has done but even though a grown man I will do my best to support and help him get back on the right track, always have done and always will.
Other family members have different views, these views could change they might not, but I just accept it now. I've learnt to realise I have to look after myself and as hard as I try (as a mum) you strive, but it's impossible to slot it all back into place as it was.x sad as it is -- family life has changed and I just try to rebuild and adapt to these changes. Do admit tho, it's been damn hard and ive suffered a lot of stress.