Cutting out toxic people
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My so called 'friends' have disclosed to another group of friends which are involved in my child's sports club.
this group now wants nothing to do with us and it seems they want to kick my child out too.
Im actually not upset about loosing them, but I am devastated about my child being punished. The P word is being branded about, I did try to explain the facts which fell on deaf ears and they can think what they like I'm past caring.
I can't stop crying for my child. I do not want them in that toxic environment, where nobody talks to his family, not even Mum, and where he could potentially hear things like P.
Problem now - we now need to be honest about what Dads done. I didn't want to do this yet but feel I now have no choice, do I? I am not mentally strong enough at present and I hate them all for not supporting us.
this group now wants nothing to do with us and it seems they want to kick my child out too.
Im actually not upset about loosing them, but I am devastated about my child being punished. The P word is being branded about, I did try to explain the facts which fell on deaf ears and they can think what they like I'm past caring.
I can't stop crying for my child. I do not want them in that toxic environment, where nobody talks to his family, not even Mum, and where he could potentially hear things like P.
Problem now - we now need to be honest about what Dads done. I didn't want to do this yet but feel I now have no choice, do I? I am not mentally strong enough at present and I hate them all for not supporting us.
Jayjay, I'm so sorry to hear this. I feel for the partners whom have children both that are impacted so much through no wrong doing of their own.
I'm in genuine shock that these parents can't even look at the innocent children in this situation and how their actions impact them. I can understand concerns that mean they wouldn't be comfortable in father being involved in the sports teams, but to be compassionate towards your children is quite shameful.
I'm in genuine shock that these parents can't even look at the innocent children in this situation and how their actions impact them. I can understand concerns that mean they wouldn't be comfortable in father being involved in the sports teams, but to be compassionate towards your children is quite shameful.
I've seen from. Other post that children seen and heard are good at giving you an age appropriate way of telling your child, give them a ring before you do anything, also I hope you're getting some support for you xx
That's it SAL, by all means have nothing to do with Dad, but I tried to explain that me and kids are victims in this and they said I needed to think about the victims in the images, it was right then I knew we need to walk away from it all and I feel like I am failing my kids, when actually it's the total opposite, protecting and taking them away from toxic people x
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That is horrible that a so called friend did that. And annoys me when people say 'think of the victims in the images' and dismiss our feelings- of course we all do think and care for the victims, but just because your response to them and you asking to think about your child's doesn't say in the same breathe about the victims doesn't mean you don't care or can't comprehend.
Your child is totally innocent in this, why can't they see that and act as such? Their loss.
Your child is totally innocent in this, why can't they see that and act as such? Their loss.
Thank you. Feeling a bit better today x
Sorry to hear this happened, some people can be so cruel.
I was really worried about the opinion of others & how they would judge me if they found out. Unfortunately (or fortunately in this case) one of my best mates found out after a stressful conversion with his visor officer. I was in tears & pretty distressed & I just blurted it out. This was before the signed disclosure.
She was amazing & has been incredibly supportive since, she repeatedly tells me that I shouldn't care about what others think because it's my life & it's none of their business. She also said that if I trust him, then she trusts him & would have no concern at her kids being around him.
There are certainly those friends who like to gossip that I wouldn't tell. But I just wanted to share this to show that not everyone is like that cruel person & you do right to get rid of her & anyone like her. If they can't support you & your children through this, then they don't deserve to be your friends.
Hope you're okay xx
I was really worried about the opinion of others & how they would judge me if they found out. Unfortunately (or fortunately in this case) one of my best mates found out after a stressful conversion with his visor officer. I was in tears & pretty distressed & I just blurted it out. This was before the signed disclosure.
She was amazing & has been incredibly supportive since, she repeatedly tells me that I shouldn't care about what others think because it's my life & it's none of their business. She also said that if I trust him, then she trusts him & would have no concern at her kids being around him.
There are certainly those friends who like to gossip that I wouldn't tell. But I just wanted to share this to show that not everyone is like that cruel person & you do right to get rid of her & anyone like her. If they can't support you & your children through this, then they don't deserve to be your friends.
Hope you're okay xx