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Next week should be my ten year wedding anniversary to my husband, we had the knock just over 3months ago.
We have remained in contact but he is living elsewhere, we have two children together and he is the other half of me and has been for almost 15 years. My whole adult life is with him.
I had no idea what he had been doing and I am heartbroken and furious but haven't made a decision on our future as so much is in the air, I'm not making a decision now in turmoil that effects me and my family in the future, plus I have no idea how I actually feel right now.
There is lots of change, but ultimately were still married though living seperately and not romantic with each other as we normally would be.
Any advice on the anniversary, it should be such a lovely day to celebrate, which I don't feel like doing though I also don't want to ignore it completely.
Any thoughts from anyone who has been in my shoes? (Albeit slightly different!)
Thanks
We have remained in contact but he is living elsewhere, we have two children together and he is the other half of me and has been for almost 15 years. My whole adult life is with him.
I had no idea what he had been doing and I am heartbroken and furious but haven't made a decision on our future as so much is in the air, I'm not making a decision now in turmoil that effects me and my family in the future, plus I have no idea how I actually feel right now.
There is lots of change, but ultimately were still married though living seperately and not romantic with each other as we normally would be.
Any advice on the anniversary, it should be such a lovely day to celebrate, which I don't feel like doing though I also don't want to ignore it completely.
Any thoughts from anyone who has been in my shoes? (Albeit slightly different!)
Thanks
Sorry to read this. In my experience - one of the sentencing dates (got postponed night before) was set for what would have been our wedding anniversary - no matter what I did to distract myself it was a really stressful and rubbish day. I think sometimes days are just going to be rubbish and making sure you're in a safe space to let that happen is fine. If you have any stress relief activities then plan them in ahead of time. The next day felt a little better and so on. Wishing you luck xx
Do what you think is right about your wedding anniversary. It is next week so you do not have to make a decision today. Just do what you feel you are able. Take it a day at a time. Even if it is the morning of the wedding anniversary do things at your own pace.
You do what is right for you. X
You do what is right for you. X
Hi there.
We had the knock several months ago now. Sentencing is next month. I can't help I'm afraid, but just wanted to sympathise. It is our first wedding anniversary next week.
This should be such a happy time, but I am overcome with anxiety, stress, sadness and grief.
I just wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Hope you're ok xx
We had the knock several months ago now. Sentencing is next month. I can't help I'm afraid, but just wanted to sympathise. It is our first wedding anniversary next week.
This should be such a happy time, but I am overcome with anxiety, stress, sadness and grief.
I just wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Hope you're ok xx
We got the knock on Feb1st, our 50 th anniversary in March. !!!!????. I didn't feel like celebrateing Anything at All.
Bless you all - I feel for you - hugs all round x
Thanks all.
We didn't celebrate. He got me some small items that he knew if like but I was actually attending a birth so I was preoccupied, which was a blessing in disguise.
When does this get easier?!
We didn't celebrate. He got me some small items that he knew if like but I was actually attending a birth so I was preoccupied, which was a blessing in disguise.
When does this get easier?!
It's my 4th wedding anniversary tomorrow. I'm on holiday with the kids and he will be attending his "voluntary" interview. The A word has been banned for this year.
Hi 2nd time around for me an oh he was sentenced In May 2022 to 30 months . We've been together 18 years it was our 6 th wedding anniversary 12th Aug its was a crap day .. I won't be taking him back this time no celebrations just hurt .. I lost my family fir him I'm lost alone I have no one now I stood by him last time he got 12 months
He was my world he threw it all away we've been through so much over the years I saved his life when he dropped dead in front of me I brought him back I have my own mental health issues this is my second marriage won't be a third I'm so alone it hurts every day I feel like I'm dying .. awaiting mental health phsycotherapy again .. this will take time due to the state of the nhs ..
I really can't deal
Sorry I hope your OK xx
He was my world he threw it all away we've been through so much over the years I saved his life when he dropped dead in front of me I brought him back I have my own mental health issues this is my second marriage won't be a third I'm so alone it hurts every day I feel like I'm dying .. awaiting mental health phsycotherapy again .. this will take time due to the state of the nhs ..
I really can't deal
Sorry I hope your OK xx
Just read you post Suzie65. Please do not feel alone. I know it is easier said than done. Every day I read the messages on here, sometimes for advice but also to make me feel that I am not so alone.
I am currently supporting my OH but not sure for how long. I have been married many years and i really cannot see life without him. Yet i have already lost close friends because of him. People either look at me with sympathy or disgust because of him. We are much poorer because of him as he lost a well paid job. We now have only my salary and i am not in a well paid job. I think all the time am I doing the right thing etc
But reading the old posts and the new keeps me going. Just remember you are not alone and start a new thread whenever you feel down, we are here. X
I am currently supporting my OH but not sure for how long. I have been married many years and i really cannot see life without him. Yet i have already lost close friends because of him. People either look at me with sympathy or disgust because of him. We are much poorer because of him as he lost a well paid job. We now have only my salary and i am not in a well paid job. I think all the time am I doing the right thing etc
But reading the old posts and the new keeps me going. Just remember you are not alone and start a new thread whenever you feel down, we are here. X