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Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Fri July 29, 2022 5:23pmReport post

Hi me again

Really struggling today . Partners not been to work for weeks . They were funny after needing time off for second interview . He didn't tell me untill I seen the letter and just replied he doesn't want to carry on anymore . He's worried there going to push this perverting the cause of justice .

We are waiting on a charge . My worry him loosing his job let alone giving it up . He doesn't want to leave his house and really can't go on. He said noone can help him . Doctor's , help lines ect .

We just can't seem to see how this will get better :(

Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Fri July 29, 2022 5:50pmReport post

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Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Fri July 29, 2022 5:59pmReport post

Thank you . I just want this to end . I can't be mad at him as to how he feels right now . He doesn't want to visit the children he feels to upset and worthless . The guilt of everythingust have got to much lately . Xx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Fri July 29, 2022 6:52pmReport post

Xxx.. you're post has made me tear up.

You guys are struggling so much. This process is inhumane and long and awful and is punishment before the punishment.

Your partner is worth every fibre of his being, every bit of his soul is worth fighting for.

Fight. If only for your children, fight. You can a get through, you can. Try to be brave.

xxxxxx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1000 posts

Posted Fri July 29, 2022 8:04pmReport post

Hi xxx,

Do you have anyone who could have the children for a couple of hours so that you two can spend some time alone? He needs hope and help. Try to give him things that you need him to do even if it's popping to the shop. He needs to know how much you need his support to give him a purpose. Once you've had your uninterrupted chat, hug, cry whatever you need then you can decide if he needs you to speak to his gp on his behalf. Sending love and strength to your whole family xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Fri July 29, 2022 8:16pmReport post

God this journey is so damn bloody hard. My heart goes out to everyone in the early stages.

I know I am my sons life line while in prison, he said today our call makes his day. And it certainly makes mine.

big big big the biggest hug to you all xxxx

Edited Fri July 29, 2022 8:17pm

Xxx

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March 2022

439 posts

Posted Fri July 29, 2022 9:55pmReport post

Thank you for all your support everyone . It's so horrible isn't it . Some days are better than others but today seems to be the worst and all hope is lost . He's not really one for talking which is half the issue aswell. I said to call the doctor or him mum or somthing he said noone can help . I have spend the last week complaining about all the chores and the stress and money ect so I feel I don't help somtimes because he would love to be home with the children dealing with all of that m he knows how hard it is for me and that makes his guilt worse I think . I feel like a fraud going along with friends and family like nothing is going on but what am I supposed to do . It's coming up to a year now . So distractions and positive thoughts have nearly ran out I think . I don't eveen kno how he will react when he has his first court dates ect . . Thoughts with you all aswell xxx

Newlady

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April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sat July 30, 2022 10:42amReport post

Hey there big hugs from me, was thinking maybe he could ring the help line? My person feels like this regularly and it always helps him x

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Sun July 31, 2022 8:45amReport post

Thank you newlady I have surjested that but he said noone can help him . No matter what anyone's says it dusnt help. There was a similar story in the media this week aswell so that's kind of ruining our hoped that it won't be in the media xx