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Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sat July 30, 2022 10:31amReport post

Just a question to anyone that's moved after it hit the media .

If it's hits the media and I need to move will people be interested in the house will the media afect the sale .

Would moving really help because surley were we go will then get found out . And how to sell up and get other house with no jobs wouldbt work for the new mortgage would it?

I'm just thinking off all the stuff in the house and his flat what would we do with it all ?

SAL

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December 2021

895 posts

Posted Sat July 30, 2022 2:12pmReport post

In hindsight I wish my partner had sold his house before the charges. It's proving problematic trying to do in prison and he's of course in a much weaker position - He isn't in a position to hold out for a good offer. A agent that was approached wouldn't sell it for him because of the specific charge and the details in the media.

You never know whether charges will come or what the sentence will be or the newspaper coverage of course. I think if he's stopped to think, he'd probably have realised he wouldn't have wanted to live in the house after anyway - But that's all said with the benefit of hindsight and the situation he is now in practically and emotionally.

Our situation is different to yours, as he lived alone. I would however at a minimum start looking at the mortage and how you'd move forward should the worse happen and he is convicted and receives a custodial.

SAL

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December 2021

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Posted Sat July 30, 2022 2:30pmReport post

I think it also depends on the house and the area. My person house even in the best circumstances wouldn't attract lots of interest.

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sun July 31, 2022 8:42amReport post

Thank you . I do have a job just on maternity but not sure if I can go back if it's in the media 100s of people work there and not sure I could face a new person talking about me each day . I don't think I could move far away my family wouldn't be happy . No idea what will happen just trying to think of options :( . The police should have send to the cps a month ago does anyone know roughly how long it will be till me get the charges ? Xx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sun July 31, 2022 8:43amReport post

I havnt even concidered prison I know I need to :( but all I hope is it will go to suspended and not be in the media and then my family won't need to know . But that's just wishful thinking but I think the only thing that's getting me through the days xx

Nemesis

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July 2021

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Posted Sun July 31, 2022 5:06pmReport post

I am moving but to be closer to my family. His family have been awful, and although it will break my heart, my circumstances and his charges are complex



the house sale and paperwork has been a nightmare. But my ex didn't do what he was meant to, and there are other factirs

My address was in media so I did mention it to twh estate agents. We have had no problems, and neighbours who know have been supportive, but I genuinely don't know if it would have been different if he had stayed.



I don't know if the buyers are aware, but they are first time buyers, had been let down a few times, and I was definately moving.



nothing is easy for decisions. I have been accepted at school gates, and I don't know if I can do the gossip again.



I have limited choices so decided to see the positive (but I have many wobbles). Deep breaths but if it is a possible factor get him to sort the paperwork. One less thing for you as clearing a family home with lots of memories isn't easy (especially when it has to fit in a car ....)



Take care

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Tue August 2, 2022 2:03pmReport post

Thank you for your replies. No I haven't had any help yet I have the kids full-time and by the time there in bed I don't want to call the helpline and upset myself . Each day seems to be getting harder not better . It's a no th since that interview . Waiting on charges . Solicitor emailed for an update no reply from the police officer in charge . U have rang her so many times today just puts the phone down. So I asume I can't phone to check they have actully sent it to the cps . I was trying to get along with things but really can't seem to be normal . The more I'm upset the more he's upset things just don't get any better money housing issues ect . I would love to move but not sure we're to get because it's all riding on the media if I can go back to work xxx

Daffodil

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Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Wed August 3, 2022 10:07amReport post

Thank you both . The police officer said call wheveber she will ring is the second the computer things came back but she didn't . I just feel like she's dragging her heels on purpose. She's always pushing things back and not going anything when the results came back she was like I will try look at it this week then she's on holiday ect. Kids are happy as Larry my smiles painted on all day and were always out and about. I just feel no matter the outcome life is messed up. I don't know how I could do a life when she can't have a friend round ect. At the moment I have taken the friend and her out to the park soft play ect not at the house but when she's getting older she just wants to play in her room with her friends . I just seen to ask a millions questions and know what it is I can and can't do but I won't know untill it's done with in court ect. Xxxx