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Bob

Member since
September 2021

36 posts

Posted Mon August 1, 2022 4:49pmReport post

Hi not been on here much, just a update my OH got the knock last August for having a conversation with a police decoy involving young children, police have found nothing on his phone or laptop or any other devices.

we have been to court (magistrates ) twice as they don’t know what charges to charge him, charged him with the wrong charge so had to go crown court to say plea(not guilty) as he said it was just a fantasy chat which he states that he doesn’t believe the person to be real

since getting all the evidence that the police had on him two conversations and a telephone call we have noticed there is a 20 min missing from the conversation where my OH says that they say something that confirmed that they were just having a chat.

Our children have been beaten up 4 times as it has been put in the paper 2 different charges and saying when he had to be in court and was not at court at all, we have lost a lot of friends and family through this.

Anyway it looks like we are near the end now as we are at court next week (fingers crossed ) has anyone been through the same and could help on a outcome.

also it has been a joke from the start of it not getting things correct in court, not seeing him when he had to go back to the police station. CPS not sending the correct paper work, solicitors well let’s just say don’t know what we are paying for, saying we are due in court the day we get the post.

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

452 posts

Posted Fri August 19, 2022 12:52pmReport post

Hello Bob,

Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations so I would like to thank you for being open about what you are going through so that you can access some support.

I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post yet. Hopefully someone will reach out to you soon to offer you some support.

I understand that you and your family are finding yourselves in an incredibly difficult situation and we cannot imagine how you are feeling at the moment. I would, therefore, encourage you to contact our Stop It Now! Helpline on 0808 1000 900 so that we can discuss your situation in more detail and offer you more in-depth support. I would like to reassure you that the helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to call from a landline.


I hope this has been helpful.

Take care,

Lucy

Edited Fri August 19, 2022 12:53pm

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

633 posts

Posted Fri August 19, 2022 8:19pmReport post

Bob

I think it's the absolute worst when people pick on the children of offenders or accused. It's such a low thing to do.

I hope the court hearing went OK - the legal system seems to be stuck in the dark ages and there seems to be a lot of problems with hearings being set and then people not being ready, so it all gets adjourned. Of course this simply adds to the stress of the the accused and their families

Hoping you are OK.

RIG22

Member since
September 2022

138 posts

Posted Wed September 21, 2022 7:10pmReport post

Hi Bob



It breaks my heart to hear of what your children are going through and having to face. It's so unfair and wrong. Makes me so angry that people think they have the right to be violent towards others/your children. They should be arrested.



I hope you and your children are coping as best as you can. All of us here are in the same boat unfortunately all thanks to our OH's.



take care x

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Wed September 21, 2022 9:53pmReport post

Hi Bob,

my heart breaks for you and your children.
dis you get to the bottom of the missing 20 minutes - your solicitor certainly should have.
how did you get on in court x