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Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri August 5, 2022 11:06pmReport post

To the mums

I am at a loss

I thought after sentancing and my son been moved to an SO prison it would be better

But he is struggling so much with his Mental health

He has given up, dosent see what we do

He does not want to be here

He does not see a future

He has lost his friends,

I hate this journey

I feel like I am grieving but he is still here but honestly it is just a matter of time

And I cant do anything x

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Sat August 6, 2022 12:13amReport post

Hey Upset xxxxx

Huge hug to you xxx

I think there's a few of us here who feel we are clinging on with our finger tips. I'm so sorry that you're feeling so sad tonight.

I fear for my sons life everyday.

It must be so hard not to be next to him and holding him whilst you know he feels this way. The pain and heartache is unbearable.

You're a great mum and you're doing everything possible to support your son x x x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat August 6, 2022 12:28amReport post

Thank you Polly x

I just feel helpless

I want him to be strong, I want him to live but I also want him to be at peace

I have lived with my brothers suicide but I am not ready to say goodbye to my son x

Daffodil

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Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Sat August 6, 2022 8:31amReport post

My dear friend Upset - my heart aches for you - I totally understand how you are feeling. You son is obviously very open with his feelings while I think my boy tends to be upbeat and only occasionally speaks about his emotions.

I think it must hit them like a bombshell this is their life for a long time + coming to terms with it..... I know they are surrounded by 'listeners' but bless him, might not feel comfortable with this.....

You see your son - so he has that to look forward to. All I can offer is just to do what you doing, i go over the top with praise & how proud I feel if he achieves anything. I send you a big massive cuddle - keep strong my lovely, we WILL get through this......

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat August 6, 2022 1:35pmReport post

Smile & Daff

Thank you you are always there to pick me up thank you xx

He has an appointment with the MH team on Weds morning and will likely go back on antidepressants

It's just a constant worry, he is still here and we are holding on for now xx

Hugs back to you xx

Smile through tears

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Daffodil

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Maij

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December 2020

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Posted Mon August 8, 2022 1:20amReport post

Hi upset mum



Reading your post is upsetting.



I am so sorry to hear that your son is struggling with his mental health. Is he having support, counselling and therapy in prison. Is he on medication for his mental health?. if you are concerned that he may have suicidal thoughts, have you raised this with the prison staff at a higher level in writing .

He must have help to lift him out of these negative thoughts and feelings. Otherwise he will spiral.



I can't imagine how it must feel in your position can you visit hom more often or are there testrictions ? I am wishing your son and you all the very best. How much longer in prison does he have .

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 6:53amReport post

Hi Upset - been thinking about your son - did his appt go ahead? I really hope so, I know how this sort of thing can be cancelled with no explanation given!

love sent x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 3:02pmReport post

Hi Maij

Thank you for your kind words, he is currently talking to the MH people so hopefully they can help him

He has several years to go as yet unfortunately and I totally understand how he feels like this but I need him to keep strong and we can get through this xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 3:04pmReport post

Hi Smile,

Thank you for asking, he had his appointment this morning and we have a video call later today so hopefully he can update us as to how he got on xx

How are you? Hows your son doing?xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 5:21pmReport post

Hi upset - fingers crossed your son will get support - I'm sure they deal with this anguish all the time...... as always I feel for you x

my lad is fine and getting more open time which he needs. Yes, he seems ok x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 6:01pmReport post

Hi Smile

Glad your son is getting more outside time is makes such a difference xx

Just got off the video call, he had an hour with the support team they are going to give him 6 sessions to try to improve his mindset but they have said it will take several weeks as a waiting list (no surprise there) he gets his antidepressants tomorrow so hopefully they will take the edge of it in a couple of weeks

Other than that it's just getting through each day, we have a visit Saturday so will get some hugs in xx

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Wed August 10, 2022 11:25pmReport post

Hey Smile and Upset,

You are the best mums ever - keep going, you're doing great and your sons need you xxxx

Lots of love x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu August 11, 2022 2:50pmReport post

Thank you Polly xx

How are you doing?x