The waiting game…
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How did you feel once the crown court was out of the way? I am not quite sure what to do with myself or how I feel. I think everything still feels very surreal. And I feel like it's a waiting game now with the media and people finding out...
I am still highly anxious, paranoid and finding it hard to relax.
Sentencing was last Thursday and it hit the local paper on Monday. My husband has lost his job and with a conviction unlikely to get another. So a whole new problem of managing finances etc.
Cornish Tea
Sentencing was last Thursday and it hit the local paper on Monday. My husband has lost his job and with a conviction unlikely to get another. So a whole new problem of managing finances etc.
Cornish Tea
I'm so sorry to hear that Cornish tea :(
I've actually just read your message on the other thread and that's just awful about his work. How do they expect people to rehabilitate if they can't work and are scared to leave their home because of the judgements?
Did you get any backlash from people you both know finding out in the local area? I hate that the media can cause this much anguish and anxiety.
I've actually just read your message on the other thread and that's just awful about his work. How do they expect people to rehabilitate if they can't work and are scared to leave their home because of the judgements?
Did you get any backlash from people you both know finding out in the local area? I hate that the media can cause this much anguish and anxiety.
We are a month post sentencing, no media in court and so far nothing in paper. I'm at a loss too, expected to feel releaved (suspended sentence) but I just keep waiting for another shit storm or something? It's weird. I think I am staying with my oh but I'm also resentful and think we need couple counselling x
I completely get how you're feeling JayJay. It's like I'm waiting for something else bad to happen. Or something to happen to tell me what to do next, or how I should feel. I think couple counselling sounds like a good idea to help you rebuild or understand how you're actually feeling. I still don't know if I want to stay with him yet or not. The crown court was a lot to take in. I don't think I've fully processed it all yet. I'm still on the waiting list for therapy, I don't know if it will help, but I hope someone can help me understand my emotions a little bit more.
Same, it's like the massive part is over and how we are supposed to feel? Yes it could have been worse, but Our lives have changed so much and it's like what do we do now?!
We were in fight mode until now. We need to process what the hell we've been through x
We were in fight mode until now. We need to process what the hell we've been through x
That is a perfect way to describe it. In fight mode, working towards one big date. We've hit the biggest milestone, but I didn't prepare myself for what happens next. We've all experienced such a long, horrible period of limbo. I assume it's going to take a while to process everything. My partner also received a suspended sentence, the best possible outcome, which I'm glad about. But I'm still confused, anxious and unsure what I'm supposed to do now. I'm struggling a lot today.
Hope you're feeling a little brighter today green. I'm not having a great day today and attending a family thing which im praying no kids are going to (Ive asked and they didn't think so but if one turns up, oh will have to make his discreet excuses and leave otherwise he will need to disclose to parents and police) im not sure I can live my life like this x
Do your family know jayjay? I can't belive that they say u have to disclose to everyone ect . I can't understand if a family are coming over just to your house but in a big area or a party or somthing I don't get it . It's so hard because since becoming a mum I have been tryi g to make friends with people with children before I had children I wudnt of ever been around any. I've just gone out with my family and had to pretend her was at the dentist m alot of questions it being Saturday him being at the dentist for 4 hours ect look funny but running out of excuses . I always things family will wonder why I'm so stressed and Noddy and the house is always a mess they don't know I'm going everything alone . Like when I complain I can't even get a mins price or take a shower. I always wonder why they don't say why isn't he pulling his weight ect . My family were upset he had tooth pain god help them if they find out xxx
Thank you xx but that's awful JayJay, I didn't realise even for small events like that you have to disclose, we are still awaiting to hear what the full restrictions are. I really want children and most likely would have had them by now if it wasn't for the last 2 years, but I just worry about how my life will be if I stay with him and all these restrictions.
Xxx our parents, my Aunty and Uncle know. We don't have many children in our family as they are all young adults now. There was no contact restrictions on SHPO But conditions of the SOR apparently say he needs to disclose prior to contact with any children to parents and police - yet it did say contact with children for over 12 hours but his police contact is a nightmare and we are questioning what is actually correct x
Xxx our parents, my Aunty and Uncle know. We don't have many children in our family as they are all young adults now. There was no contact restrictions on SHPO But conditions of the SOR apparently say he needs to disclose prior to contact with any children to parents and police - yet it did say contact with children for over 12 hours but his police contact is a nightmare and we are questioning what is actually correct x