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Hi I've been reading topics for awhile now but not been brave enough to post. This is the 2nd time I'm going through this. My husband first received a caution 18 yrs ago for viewing images. I thought it was behind us but beginning this year to my horror we received a knock again. All devices taken and we are waiting. No charge as yet but I believe this to be coming it has been months . Police have said all his devices have now been requested by the dept that looks at them. He has admitted being on "kick" that is also what the police told me. I didn't know what that was! He has been living away from home and in therapy twice weekly. He has said photos cross all categories. I'm scared and very alone. My family want nothing to do with him. I'm struggling financially, it's affected my daughter , my work our lives are a mess. My friends don't understand and shared friends don't speak to me as if I'm to blame. I'm thinking as it's a 2nd offensive they will be harsher but I don't know. I've never felt more alone.
Hello Buttons,
I'm so sorry you're here and that this is happening to you again. I can't imagine going through this twice.. sending you a hug and support xxx
I have just got off a live chat with an advisor - they are open until 12pm today. Go and have a look, they are very supportive.
I'm so sorry you're here and that this is happening to you again. I can't imagine going through this twice.. sending you a hug and support xxx
I have just got off a live chat with an advisor - they are open until 12pm today. Go and have a look, they are very supportive.
Thank you for replying it means a lot. I will call the helpline I called when it first happened 2nd time but not called back since. I wasn't sure what to say. I shall be brave. Thank you
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Thank you everyone for your support. I will will look at the thread. I am having counselling she has said to reach out to this community so I'm grateful. We wait for the next step which I know takes a long time. There was not this sort of support when this happened the first time. You had to just get on with it.
Hi,
So sorry that you are going through this a second time. I have no idea whether a previous offence from 18 years ago would have any bearing, but suspect it may do.
We are all here for you
Cornish Tea
So sorry that you are going through this a second time. I have no idea whether a previous offence from 18 years ago would have any bearing, but suspect it may do.
We are all here for you
Cornish Tea
Hi Buttons.
sorry you're going through this again. Unfortunately we don't know how people will react, I've lost close friends and gained new ones. Family supportive except 2 people who don't want anything to do with oh, which is sad, we've tried to explain and showed them what he's done to make sure this will not happen again but people don't want to know and don't understand and there's nothing we can do to change that. Have you got some support? I second contacting helpline.
You mention he's been in therapy is that since this second knock or before?
just out of curiosity what was the charge 18 years ago? Was that on internet as I don't think we had smart phones etc then ... I may be wrong? Was he put on SOR or given an SHPO? Just thinking if so they would have ran out by now but the charge would stay on his record?
hugs to you xx
sorry you're going through this again. Unfortunately we don't know how people will react, I've lost close friends and gained new ones. Family supportive except 2 people who don't want anything to do with oh, which is sad, we've tried to explain and showed them what he's done to make sure this will not happen again but people don't want to know and don't understand and there's nothing we can do to change that. Have you got some support? I second contacting helpline.
You mention he's been in therapy is that since this second knock or before?
just out of curiosity what was the charge 18 years ago? Was that on internet as I don't think we had smart phones etc then ... I may be wrong? Was he put on SOR or given an SHPO? Just thinking if so they would have ran out by now but the charge would stay on his record?
hugs to you xx
Hi buttons I too have gone through this twice my husband was sentenced 2nd time for 30 months the first time he was sentenced to 12 months
I stayed the first time I lost all my family because if it
Now he's in prison again since May 2022 he will do 15 months
I can't do this again he threw everything away we've been through so much i stood by him
He knew what I'd gone through but he's thrown it all back in my face ..it has been a long year as he was bailed to our house now I'm greiveing or at least that's how it feels I've list everything it's just me now .. his family have stood by him throughout .. I can't
I'm afraid I'm lonley no one understands THAT ITS JUST ME NOW
I'm so sorry your going through this again I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone xx
I stayed the first time I lost all my family because if it
Now he's in prison again since May 2022 he will do 15 months
I can't do this again he threw everything away we've been through so much i stood by him
He knew what I'd gone through but he's thrown it all back in my face ..it has been a long year as he was bailed to our house now I'm greiveing or at least that's how it feels I've list everything it's just me now .. his family have stood by him throughout .. I can't
I'm afraid I'm lonley no one understands THAT ITS JUST ME NOW
I'm so sorry your going through this again I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone xx
Hello everyone,
just to say thank you again for all your support. I've contacted safer lives they we're so nice and they have offered me lots of support.
Susie65 I feel your pain and I am thinking of you. First time is horrendous 2nd time devastating.
I hope I can be supportive to anyone in need on here I am so glad to have people I can talk to about this as I have no one. It's a taboo subject and those who do know find it hard to comprehend or are very judgemental which is equally hurtful.
thank you all again x
just to say thank you again for all your support. I've contacted safer lives they we're so nice and they have offered me lots of support.
Susie65 I feel your pain and I am thinking of you. First time is horrendous 2nd time devastating.
I hope I can be supportive to anyone in need on here I am so glad to have people I can talk to about this as I have no one. It's a taboo subject and those who do know find it hard to comprehend or are very judgemental which is equally hurtful.
thank you all again x