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Globe trotter

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June 2021

48 posts

Posted Mon August 15, 2022 9:06pmReport post

So hubby is going to crown this time next week for 2 counts of communication, mind is going into overdrive. I know all cases are different. Just want to ask how many have had a suspended sentence instead of a custodial for a communication offence

Katie28

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December 2021

183 posts

Posted Mon August 15, 2022 9:15pmReport post

Our situation was images and my husband got a suspended sentence. Sorry I can't reassure you more but hope and pray for the best outcome for you. Xxx

Nemesis

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July 2021

125 posts

Posted Tue August 16, 2022 3:43amReport post

One count (communication with decoy over 2 weeks), and custodial

the judge followed the guidelines

We aren't together but the court experience was unforgettable. Look after yourself

Globe trotter

Member since
June 2021

48 posts

Posted Tue August 16, 2022 10:47amReport post

lee1969 Nemesis Thank you for your replies

Probation and the Police have recommended a suspended sentence

We have letters from Lucy Faithfull , myself and he has done an accountability letter too

Hubby self-reported and then got the Knock. He is worried sick. I know he is a good man who has done something that he should not have done

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Tue August 16, 2022 7:34pmReport post

I have seen some gone for suspended for decoys, but again it is dependent on the judge on the day.

Character reference, evidence of rehabilitation could help.

Best advice is to prepare for the worst, hope for the best ...

And tbh I don't see why the PSR are done, as said above they pretty much recommend suspended and work through probation in the community every time. It wasn't referenced by the judge in their ruling in my partner's case

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Wed August 17, 2022 12:31amReport post

Good luck

please let me know how you get on if you can. My hubby is due to be sentenced for communication 1st September.



If it helps I've been keeping an eye on the news and there are lots of reports of suspended for similar charges recently. Including a police officer who had communication with a real child.



im not giving up hope.

Edited Wed August 17, 2022 12:32am

Globe trotter

Member since
June 2021

48 posts

Posted Thu August 18, 2022 12:24pmReport post

Nemesis I see that OH got a custodial - can I ask for how long ? and is it true that only half the sentence is served ?



I have a feeling that my Man is going in - My head is all over the place

SAL

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December 2021

895 posts

Posted Thu August 18, 2022 12:49pmReport post

It's so hard not to worry about what the outcome will be and I certainly don't want to give you false hope, but because he self disclosed it will work in his favour. Recognising that he's done something wrong and facing it head on.

It is true that for determinate sentences (indeterminate sentences are extremely rare and only applicable for sentences over 10 years) only half the sentence is served. My person was given 40 months but will serve 20 in custody and 20 on license.

Edited Thu August 18, 2022 12:54pm

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Thu August 18, 2022 6:59pmReport post

My partner was sentenced in April for communication with a decoy over a month, and we had three incitement charges within that too and of the most severe.
18 month suspended sentence across two years, and we were told on the day by his barrister to expect custodial.
Prepare for the worst but you're allowed to have hope too. He's done a lot of work and some judges do give that credit (in our case the judge commented how he could have done nothing more than what he has been doing since the day of the arrest).
keeping things crossed for you (and for you ScaredLamb in September) x

GreenYellow

Member since
July 2022

45 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 12:17pmReport post

My partner received a suspended sentence for communication with a decoy. But it felt like it could have gone either way on the day.

From what I have seen, I think a lot of it depends on the judge on the day, the references, the willingness to rehabilitate, the PSR, the suitability for probation, support in court, and how badly it would also affect those around them if he was to go to prison.

How true these all are I don't know. Because I have seen some judges ignore certain things and others really take everything into account. Luckily in my case, the judge did take these things into consideration.

I hope everything goes ok, sending lots of love and strength to you x

Edited Sun August 21, 2022 12:20pm

Globe trotter

Member since
June 2021

48 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 3:00pmReport post

Thank you for all your replies - Hubby says it feels like he is on Death Row

Can I ask - how many partners are 1st time offenders ?

I have decided that if he goes in - I am going to take time out from this wonderful forum just to step back a bit. Everyone here has been so supportive thank you

Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Sun August 21, 2022 4:41pmReport post

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ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 4:42pmReport post

Good luck for tomorrow.
Wishing you all the best. Please update us if you can and feel able to.

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 6:19pmReport post

Sending lots of love to you xx hoping for the best possible outcome for your partner. Xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 6:31pmReport post

Will be thinking of you both tomorrow

Strength and hugs sent xx

LA123

Member since
August 2022

7 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 9:12pmReport post

Good luck tomorrow x

Jayjay

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December 2021

695 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 9:39pmReport post

First time offender here too. I thought I wouldn't need this forum post sentencing, unfortunately I feel like I use it more :( still confused as ever.
good luck for tomorrow update us when you feel able xx

Sadsister22

Member since
February 2022

95 posts

Posted Sun August 21, 2022 11:39pmReport post

Hiya

Yes first time offender.

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. Thinking of you x

Edited Sun August 21, 2022 11:40pm

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 9:53amReport post

All the best for today stay strong . Sending hugs xx

Globe trotter

Member since
June 2021

48 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 3:08pmReport post

just got back home - with Hubby

18 months suspended for 2 years and 10 years on the SOR

SHPO - one prohobition

must notify them of any new email/ social media or gaming account

Judge was fair

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 3:27pmReport post

I'm pleased that the judge was fair and you have got a good outcome for you both xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 4:35pmReport post

A good outcome for Hubby

Time to re build and wishing you both all the very best xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 7:39pmReport post

I'm so pleased for you, although still a harsh punishment, he's still with you. Hope you can both put this behind you now and have a new, wonderful life ahead xxx

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Mon August 22, 2022 8:06pmReport post

I'm glad he's home with you xx

You have endured pure hell. I hope things can move forwards into a new normal for you now xx

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Tue August 23, 2022 11:55amReport post

Oh I'm so so pleased for you.
Glad judge was fair and so glad hubby is home with you.
Gives me some sense of hope for us next week.
Take some time to relax and settle into your new normal. Xx