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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat August 20, 2022 12:47pmReport post

As many of you know it is my son who is the offender, our journey has taken over 2 long years, sentancing, prison, the roller coaster of emotions, he has been suicidal but is still here so truly grateful

My daughter has been amazing and my rock we are both on antidepressants to help us deal with the anxiety

3 days ago my eldest son tried to commit suicide thank god he was found in time

We have the crisis team, doctors and MH team now involved

Honestly I just am beside myself

His issues are to do with finances etc but I am sure the weight of his brothers offending and outcome has played heavily on his mind

I thought at my age my life would be calm, and no.worries , how wrong was i xx

Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

326 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 1:13pmReport post

My heart breaks for you.

There is such an issue with male suicide in this country and service for those suffering from poor mental health is insufficient to say the least.

My thoughts are with you and your family x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2552 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 1:23pmReport post

Upset - I'm so so sorry and sad this is happening to you. I bet your mind is spinning, life 'seems' ok'ish then it divebombs down at any time - your frightened at what could possibly happen next. At least your son seems he'll have the support he poss cries out for.

you and your daughter sound an amazing team- you are so lucky to have each other during hard times.

love sent - as always x

Edited Sat August 20, 2022 1:24pm

Newlady

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April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 2:01pmReport post

Oh my goodness, I've been there with my partner and my neice recently so I know how worrying and tough it is, I'm so glad he's getting the help he needs, I'm sure your mind is spinning again . Bless you all big hugs xx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Sat August 20, 2022 2:15pmReport post

Upset,

A huge hug and a big chunk of strength sent to you.. you are really going through the ringer, as are your children. I'm so sorry your son is in such a bad place. You have so much to worry about..

I hope your son is doing OK and recovering from his attempt with no lasting physical effects so that he move forwards with his mental health.

So much love to you our dear friend xxxxxx

Edited Sat August 20, 2022 2:18pm

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 2:59pmReport post

Thank you all again for your constant support it means so much xx

Smile my daughter is amazing so I am incredibly lucky to have her even though she is going through all of this herself xx

A rollercoaster of sheer hell xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 3:00pmReport post

Lee1969

Thank you xx

Daffodil

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Posted Sat August 20, 2022 3:05pmReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 3:55pmReport post

Thank you Daff

Honestly I think.i was to wrapped up with my offending son and what has gone on over the last 2 years, my daughter talks to me all the time but my eldest keeps his emotions etc to himself so I just thought he was ok

He spoke to me once and broke down during his brothers investigation but that was it

And then it happened

I want this nightmare to be over xx

Bitterbean

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December 2021

635 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 5:50pmReport post

Upset mum, so sorry to hear this and hopefully your son will get the support he needs. Its is easy to forget that this situation affects other family members because we as partners or mums of the offender are ready hurting so much ourselves. I worry about my adult children who are no longer at home but are starting to feel the impact of what their dad has brought on himself.

Hoping that although this awful thing has happened, it is a turning point for your son in terms of getting help.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat August 20, 2022 8:44pmReport post

Evening Bitterbean

Thank you xx

Jayjay

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December 2021

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Posted Sat August 20, 2022 9:28pmReport post

I'm so sorry upset. I have recently gone through a male family member who has committed suicide and it is horrendous. He's been mentally unwell for years, medication changed lots and sparadic counselling. I hope your son gets the help he needs. Nothing is worth your life. Sending lots of love x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat August 20, 2022 10:13pmReport post

Thank you Jayjay

I.lost my dear brother to suicide over 25 yrs ago , it never leaves you and you are so right nothing is worth losing your life, he has support and help so I just hope we can get him in a good mindset xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Sun August 21, 2022 5:44amReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sun August 21, 2022 1:16pmReport post

Morning Smile , hope your ok and your son x

I totally agree with you about men having to be strong etc and we all know they dont open up and sadly we see a higher number of men taking there own lives, my brother was 28

I understand what your sister means for those suffering they are no longer in turmoil its then the family left to live with the consequences a bit like this journey for us all but our loved ones are still here, many say this is like a bereavement, and we all know the impact as we live it each day,

I just live in hope that both my sons get through there own separate journeys (worlds apart reasons) but both sharing the same emotional journey xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Sun August 21, 2022 1:46pmReport post

Yes Upset, what we are going through is like a bereavement - the loss of the life you once had!
but we do our damn best every day to keep it together and move forward.... x