How do I get through this
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It's been 5 and a half weeks since the knock at the door and my OH was taken away and my kids have had no contact since. I've spoken with him and met him for a chat but I'm struggling to come to terms with what has happened. My kids miss their dad and just want to see him but we need to wait for an amendment to bail. I'm struggling with how I'm feeling as it changes from day to day I want to support him but how do I even begin to do that when im trying to supoort two distraught kids and keep myself going as well. After 20 years together I never thought this would ever happen it feels like my world has come crumbling down around me and I can't picture what our future will look like anymore. Please someone tell me there's light at the end of this tunnel.
Hi
I understand a lot of what you say. We are about 7 weeks post knock. My kids are allowed supervised contact, but even that is hard. Everytime we have a day out I am asked if daddy is coming.
If you can take any positives from this hellish situation, my OH are communicating better than we ever have. He is having weekly therapy with a therapist we got through Stop SO, he also attends NA almost daily.
Open dialogue between us has helped him to understand the impact of his actions on me & our children, but it has also helped me to understand that he is not a monster, he is a weak man who got himself in an awful situation.
I have decided to support him and hope that our family can survive, but we are still early days and I know there are no guarantees. I believe that by me supporting him with the hope of reconciliation, he has an insensitive to stay on the right path, which has to be better for everyone.
I can't promise a light at the end of the tunnel but would encourage you to communicate. Most of all, look after yourself x
I understand a lot of what you say. We are about 7 weeks post knock. My kids are allowed supervised contact, but even that is hard. Everytime we have a day out I am asked if daddy is coming.
If you can take any positives from this hellish situation, my OH are communicating better than we ever have. He is having weekly therapy with a therapist we got through Stop SO, he also attends NA almost daily.
Open dialogue between us has helped him to understand the impact of his actions on me & our children, but it has also helped me to understand that he is not a monster, he is a weak man who got himself in an awful situation.
I have decided to support him and hope that our family can survive, but we are still early days and I know there are no guarantees. I believe that by me supporting him with the hope of reconciliation, he has an insensitive to stay on the right path, which has to be better for everyone.
I can't promise a light at the end of the tunnel but would encourage you to communicate. Most of all, look after yourself x
Hi struggling mum. / my heart goes out to you - on here we've all been through the emotions you are feeling right now. The beginning of this is the worst - it's a struggle coming to terms with what's happened (and you will do).
I feel for you mums with children to look after - your amazing in my opinion...... I know it's easier said than done, but look after & be kind to yourself always. Take on day at a time & try to not overthink about the future.
keep strong x
I feel for you mums with children to look after - your amazing in my opinion...... I know it's easier said than done, but look after & be kind to yourself always. Take on day at a time & try to not overthink about the future.
keep strong x
Thank you so much for the reply I didn't realise we could have therapy together I think that would be a massive help as he has always had trouble communicating x
I have such admiration for every person having to go through this I didn't think I would ever be able to cope but I'm getting out of bed everyday and I'm taking that as a win x
I have such admiration for every person having to go through this I didn't think I would ever be able to cope but I'm getting out of bed everyday and I'm taking that as a win x