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Rachel2022

Member since
August 2022

119 posts

Posted Tue August 30, 2022 2:59pmReport post

Hi,



First time posting here. I have tried to call the helpline but have not been able to bring myself to speak. My partner and I are a year and 4 months into this nightmare. The knock came and the police entered the house without anyone being present and took away devices. That is the last we have heard from them the solicitor advised we just wait. Will the police want to interview me? My parter is someone i could have seen me spending the rest of my life with he is also my best friend and I would be lost without him however, I still just can't get over the shock of it all I really can't. although I feel Shocked that he has looked at such things on the internet it still hasn't changed how I feel about him I have slowly watched the man I love more than anything disappear before me. He has been to the GP but they weren't helpful at all and only offered him a sick Line for work which he didn't take. I'm sorry for the rant and not really quite sure what I'm asking here but maybe just to speak to people who find themselves in a similar situation.

Confused123

Member since
July 2021

22 posts

Posted Tue August 30, 2022 4:04pmReport post

Hi,

Very similar position to you, 1 year 3 months with no real update and no real progression or movement on anything.

I am struggling more and more each say with not knowing, unable to make plans, unable to move forward or know what the future may hold, constant fog hanging over me. Will this yet be another Christmas without having an outcome....

Taking each day as it comes right now, some days are better than others, no support, unable to tell anyone for fear of what they might say, intact I have probably gone as far as excluding myself from most things for fear of this all coming out in the future.

Sorry my post hasn't probably been all that helpful, but hopefully it helps to know you are not alone x

Rachel2022

Member since
August 2022

119 posts

Posted Tue August 30, 2022 4:11pmReport post

Hi,

Thank you for your post. It is a relief to know that others are in a similar position although a position we all don't want to be in. As you say it's the waiting and not knowing what the outcome will be. I just want to get the best possible outcome for him and for us to be able to move forward. Thank you for posting. I have not spoken to anyone other than my partner about this. I hope you are doing ok xx

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue August 30, 2022 4:24pmReport post

I'm no help and have nothing positive to add :( I feel the same and today has been horrible just sat crying holding my baby wishing it would all end . Going over and over things in my head .

I feel like I can't take another seconds.longer let alone a year . Mine been over a year already . The day I found out I was pregnant . Ruined every aspect of my happy times and I can't take another year of this . Xxx

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Thu September 15, 2022 11:13pmReport post

Hi Rachel2022,

im in the same position as you. My partner was arrested 6 weeks ago. We were supposed to have been getting married in October and have just moved house together. I took early retirement from work and was looking forward to a fabulous future. It's all been spoiled.
I love my partner very much but we have separated. I'm not sure that I can continue in a relationship knowing that he must be guilty even if nothing is found on any devices.

Rachel2022

Member since
August 2022

119 posts

Posted Fri September 16, 2022 5:19pmReport post

Hi lost everything,

im so sorry you are here and what has happened over the last few weeks for you. At the very start of this I just kept screaming in my head "i just want our life back". It is a very difficult time for you and please just know that you are not alone in this and that although it may not seem like it at the moment things will get easier. please take care xx