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ScaredLamb

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May 2021

203 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 1:47pmReport post

Well... the time has come.



Tonight we prepare anything that is left to do. And we just hold each other a little tighter.



Not sure what time yet tomorrow. But I will update here as soon as I know the outcome and am able to. I know how important it is to everyone to see outcomes.



Biggest concern at the moment is solicitor still hasn't received PSR. They have chases and chased. We have had so many issues with this PSR. They have said they will go ahead tomorrow without it if needed. But that frightens me.



Hopefully it's done and we see it tomorrow.



Just praying I bring him home. Anything else I can cope with.

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 1:52pmReport post

All best for you both my thoughts are with you xxx

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Sparrow

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April 2022

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 2:36pmReport post

Been thinking of you over the past week. Big hugs ahead of tomorrow x

Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 4:27pmReport post

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ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 4:42pmReport post

Update.
PSR received. Community order recommended (as suspected)

In at 10:00.

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 5:03pmReport post

Hi Lee

Yes we actually got that at the plea hearing!
Mainly it's no deleting history and informing of new devises. It does have on there about supervised with under 16 then parents have to know and unsupervised then parents and social services.
we are however going to challenge that and see if we can have it removed - if not have the wording specifically mention it doesn't include our daughter (which they don't think it does anyway - but I want it in black and white).

Orchid94

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July 2021

98 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 5:06pmReport post

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow ScaredLamb, I will keep my fingers crossed that it's good news (or at least the best we can hope for!) Big hugs. x

Alison20

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March 2021

363 posts

Posted Wed August 31, 2022 5:21pmReport post

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping for a good outcome. Stay strong x

BaffledB

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July 2021

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 5:35pmReport post

Good luck ScaredLamb! Hope it's dealt with fairly and reasonably. I will be thinking of you. Lots of love xx

Newlady

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April 2021

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 5:47pmReport post

Beat of luck tommarow sweetheart hope you both get the best outcome after all this time xcc

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 7:30pmReport post

ScaredLamb

Sending strength and hugs to you both for tomorrow xxx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Wed August 31, 2022 8:38pmReport post

Sending love and support xxx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 4:22amReport post

Xxxxxx

ACompleteMess

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February 2022

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 7:02amReport post

Thinking of you today lovely. I really hope for the best outcome for you all!

Stay strong x

ScaredLamb

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May 2021

203 posts

Posted Thu September 1, 2022 3:53pmReport post

Hi everyone.

here's the outcome:


12 months suspended for 24 months

3 months curfew (tagged at home only midnight to 5am)

120 hours unpaid work

Horizon course

60 hours probabtion work

some fines (around £400 total - 2 months to pay)

10 years SOR. 10 years SHPO (they wouldn't remove the clause about no unsupervised with under 16s but have specified it doesn't include our daughter)



Judge read everything - all the reports, all the letters he was very complimentary of the work Hubby has done and very complimentary of me.



(for those new to my story this is 2 x communication with decoy including attempting to engage in sexual activity in presence of a child)



Judge downgraded from 4 charges to 2 with aggravation of a second victim. Made it very clear that if it wasn't for the work we have done and the support he has that it would have been custodial.



The only thing I care about- Hubby is coming home and our baby girl gets her daddy home. He has lived at home throughout.

Only issue is he isn't feeling well and we have ended up in A&E as he was sick on the way home and passed out hitting his head on the car door! He's ok. We are just happy we will be going home together.


Thank you all for your continued support

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu September 1, 2022 4:13pmReport post

ScaredLamb

Thank you for the update and pleased it went as well as it could have x

Hope Hubby is ok what a terrible ordeal he must have had so much anxiety built up and it took its toll on him today

Enjoy your first night home all together a.d glad the judge took everything into consideration

Time to move forward x best of luck to you all xx

Daffodil

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 4:43pmReport post

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Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 6:05pmReport post

Phew !

Confused&worried

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 6:12pmReport post

I am so happy for you!

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 6:13pmReport post

So glad he's back home happy for you all . Hope he gets better soon and you can both relax a little and enjoy spending time with your little one xx

Polly Pocket

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May 2022

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 6:50pmReport post

Been thinking of you.x

So sorry he's unwell, but I'm so glad you've got him at home.

You are brave and brilliant.x

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Thu September 1, 2022 7:02pmReport post

I am so pleased of your outcome today - pleased you can now all move forward as a family. x

CornishTea

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August 2019

91 posts

Posted Thu September 1, 2022 7:16pmReport post

I am so glad you got the outcome you wanted, that he is gone with you and your daughter. I can imagine it's been a awful time and I hope that you can both spend time decompressing.



Thinking of you all

xx

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Thu September 1, 2022 10:15pmReport post

Sounds like a similar outcome to my partner, except the SHPO condition was not changed to exclude his children (we were told he can look to have it removed another time and wasn't for the judge on the day to decide)....

But I hope it feels like a chapter ended and now onto the new day and future.