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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 2:31pmReport post

Hi All,

So today is the first year since the second knock, a year since my son was last home with us ;-(

Kept on remand for 7 months then moved after his sentancing

xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 3:21pmReport post

Hi Upset.....

These anniversaries are so painful aren't they? Few weeks to go and it'll be two years since my son was took away too ....

Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 4:17pmReport post

Smile x

Your son must be nearly half way in his sentance xx

It's like a rollercoaster of emotions isn't it :-(

Hope you are doing ok xx

Smile through tears

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Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 4:53pmReport post

Thank you Daff x

Smile my son also has an extended license

He can apply for parole in 4 yrs 2 months if denied he has to serve 8 yrs then on licence for another 4 yrs

It's a shit situation but we will get through it day by day xx

Smile through tears

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Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 6:50pmReport post

Hi Smile x

I to try not to think about his sentance but it's just constantly in my mind, he phoned his sister today and is an ok head space he recently got his own permanent cell so has settled a bit better,

We have a visit on the 11th we try to do 2 a month as it is a bit far from us :-(

It's so frustrating isn't it when you know they need to be kept busy but they spend so much time inside, I know my lad is trying to keep busy but when he has to much time to think is when it plays havoc with his MH xx

Carmela

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November 2020

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 8:03pmReport post

Upset and Smile, I honestly think yous deserve the world for how strong yous are, yous may not feel it but yous are and yous are getting through it, how fast does time go? That will be the same for your sons sentence (I know it doesn't feel like it now) I hope your sons know how lucky they are to have amazing mothers like yous Xxx

Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 8:40pmReport post

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Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 8:54pmReport post

No he certainly doesn't he needs the love and support which he has, It's so hard knowing people/family don't want anything to do with your child, but that is there decision and I pray it never happens to them a I do believe unless you have been through this no one can give an opinion on why you would support your loved one. I hope they are understanding of you smile. Things will get better, they always do xxx

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Smile through tears

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Carmela

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Carmela

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Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:16pmReport post

Just thanks to you and everyone else for being there for me..... x

Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:17pmReport post

Is there away we can do that? To be able to chat privately?

Carmela

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Smile through tears

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Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:25pmReport post

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Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:30pmReport post

It did reach the press..... :(

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Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:31pmReport post

I'm dreading it :( such an awful club to be part of xxx

Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:37pmReport post

Dont let me scare you Carmela. As we all know on here there's no set rules on this journey. X

Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:40pmReport post

I know, the press thing is like ripping a plaster off, once it's off and stings for abit it's over and done with, it's the waiting ti pull it off that's worse. Xx

Smile through tears

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Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 9:50pmReport post

Yes I try to stop myself thinking what will be when he is out as I get a bit of a panic attack but then think when it comes I will be ready xx

Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 10:03pmReport post

We cannot control how things in life unfold can we? Time heals so much but this is a pitts situation to be in.

Upset - sorry to take over your thread x

Glad your son is settling - it helps to have personal space. My son hated sharing!
Hug sent x

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Carmela

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 10:17pmReport post

Yes sorry upset I didn't mean to take over your thread I wish we could personal message each other sometimes xxx

Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 1, 2022 10:44pmReport post

It's always good to talk about our situations each journey is so different but ours is very similar Smile xx

As you said small steps each day and not to look to far in to the future xx



Carmela

No need to apologise xxx hope your ok

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