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The Offenders!

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Confused&worried

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June 2022

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Posted Sun September 4, 2022 8:50amReport post

I am really struggling with my relationship with my OH. He is doing all the things that have been asked of him, he has moved out, he only see the kids with contact, he goes to NA and he is seeing a specialist therapist.

Yet its the attitude that I'm really struggling with. We are just arguing all the time, I'm alway wanting to remind him the damage that he has caused. When he gets the hump me I think "how dare he?!?!"

I don't know if I am articulating my point clearly.

I just wonder, do we focus so much on the damage caused by SS and police, that we forget who created the situation in the first place. And when I say "we" I mean the offending AND non offending partner???