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I only got the knock a couple of days ago so still completely reeling. Started looking through these posts but also so full of questions.
As far as I know so far, my partner has been messaging underage children for years, and I just wondered if there were people with similar experiences who have been there who can share some understanding or resources about that. It sounds less like porn addiction but something else, but this is all so new to me I don't know where to start with trying to understand.
If there's books/articles/resources that are useful then just let me know.
Everyone seems to think I'll just walk away from him, and it's such a huge betrayal I feel like I should, but I just can't switch off caring for him and want to at least try understand what's happened.
As far as I know so far, my partner has been messaging underage children for years, and I just wondered if there were people with similar experiences who have been there who can share some understanding or resources about that. It sounds less like porn addiction but something else, but this is all so new to me I don't know where to start with trying to understand.
If there's books/articles/resources that are useful then just let me know.
Everyone seems to think I'll just walk away from him, and it's such a huge betrayal I feel like I should, but I just can't switch off caring for him and want to at least try understand what's happened.
There is a useful resource here, which helps to explain why men behave like this.
https://issuu.com/non-violence/docs/robert_interviews_online_offenders
https://issuu.com/non-violence/docs/robert_interviews_online_offenders
I'm sorry you find yourself here, as Lost has said I'd really recommend reaching out to the support in the thread she bumped. The routes and reasons for this kind of offending are quite complex and could be for a variety of reasons. It's natural for you to want to understand more, but he really needs to understand why he's done this - That will help you too and help focus your reading and understanding.