SHPO & SS
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First time commenter here, but been here, lurking for well over a year now!
OH arrested in Jan '21 on suspicion of having iioc. He didn't deny it. Was honest from the get go. Cat A/B/C. Close to 1000. He didn't hide or conceal anything.
Almost two years later now and it's all pretty much over and done with. Sentenced in magistrates. 6 months, suspended for 2 years and £550 costs. 10 years on the SOR and 5 SHPO. All internet based restrictions (no deleting of history, no cloud based storage etc)
We have two young children under 5. He's a brilliant father to them, always has been and it destroyed him having to be away from us all this time. The police were happy for me to supervise contact as he couldn't return home. The SS weren't as happy and wanted me to tell my mother and father (who both think the world of him) so they could also supervise, and I said no, firmly) We decided we weren't going to tell anyone and we haven't. Our Social Worker wasn't happy, but she also signed off on me being the primary supervisor. I've supported him all the way through this terrible, traumatic ordeal and believe every word he says. He never went looking for it, just fell down a rabbit hole and morbid curiosity kept him down there.
I don't forgive him for what he's done at all. But I love him dearly and my two children do too. I know he made a terrible mistake. I can see what this has done to him, the effect. And he can see what it's done to me, and to a lesser extent our two children as well. I can see the pain and guilt in his eyes. I genuinely believe he's a good man who simply made a terrible mistake.
He's been living with his brother for almost two years now (he's only about 7 miles away from us)
So my question is,
Can he now come home ?
I want that more than anything in my life. I miss him and I need him and so do our children. I know he would die over and over and over again to protect us from any harm, and he would never hurt any of us.
As there are no restrictions when it comes to children, my understanding is that he can now have unsupervised contact with our children ?
I'd rather not involve SS at this point, if I can help it. Our woman really was useless. (Didn't know my name, the sex of our two children) forgetting very basic stuff, and I don't want them in our lives at all if it can be helped.
Can he just come back ? What can they actually do to stop him ? (If anything) The thought of having him home for Christmas gives me so much hope after being surrounded by so much negativity, depression, hopelessness and anxiety and general sadness for the past almost two years.
I hope you're all keeping well and doing the best you possibly can, under the circumstances in which we find ourselves here
OH arrested in Jan '21 on suspicion of having iioc. He didn't deny it. Was honest from the get go. Cat A/B/C. Close to 1000. He didn't hide or conceal anything.
Almost two years later now and it's all pretty much over and done with. Sentenced in magistrates. 6 months, suspended for 2 years and £550 costs. 10 years on the SOR and 5 SHPO. All internet based restrictions (no deleting of history, no cloud based storage etc)
We have two young children under 5. He's a brilliant father to them, always has been and it destroyed him having to be away from us all this time. The police were happy for me to supervise contact as he couldn't return home. The SS weren't as happy and wanted me to tell my mother and father (who both think the world of him) so they could also supervise, and I said no, firmly) We decided we weren't going to tell anyone and we haven't. Our Social Worker wasn't happy, but she also signed off on me being the primary supervisor. I've supported him all the way through this terrible, traumatic ordeal and believe every word he says. He never went looking for it, just fell down a rabbit hole and morbid curiosity kept him down there.
I don't forgive him for what he's done at all. But I love him dearly and my two children do too. I know he made a terrible mistake. I can see what this has done to him, the effect. And he can see what it's done to me, and to a lesser extent our two children as well. I can see the pain and guilt in his eyes. I genuinely believe he's a good man who simply made a terrible mistake.
He's been living with his brother for almost two years now (he's only about 7 miles away from us)
So my question is,
Can he now come home ?
I want that more than anything in my life. I miss him and I need him and so do our children. I know he would die over and over and over again to protect us from any harm, and he would never hurt any of us.
As there are no restrictions when it comes to children, my understanding is that he can now have unsupervised contact with our children ?
I'd rather not involve SS at this point, if I can help it. Our woman really was useless. (Didn't know my name, the sex of our two children) forgetting very basic stuff, and I don't want them in our lives at all if it can be helped.
Can he just come back ? What can they actually do to stop him ? (If anything) The thought of having him home for Christmas gives me so much hope after being surrounded by so much negativity, depression, hopelessness and anxiety and general sadness for the past almost two years.
I hope you're all keeping well and doing the best you possibly can, under the circumstances in which we find ourselves here
Hey there, sorry I can't really answer your question but I do know a few here who are past sentencing and have their partners home so I'm sure someone will come along and help. Xx
Womenwept, have you done anything else about this since your post?