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I thought it was only me that felt like this when seeing a police car. I honestly feel like I'm going to die every time. X

Hi ladies / it does get better but never 'quite' goes away. I use to shudder when I saw a police car that's eased but I did wake up with a fright recently thinking there was a knock (and my son is in prison) !

I use to respect the police but after my/our first experience with them - ehhhhh NO, that's gone......

I hear ya! I'm the same, pkys also when the dorr knocks and I'm not expecting anyone, I never answer anymore then I sit for hours going through it in my head who it could be, but I'm getting better at it and trying to constantly tell myself that I've did nothing wrong so why would anyone never mind police turn up at my door? It's not bloody easy xx I'm 19 months down the line due to court in 6 weeks god k ow what it will be like then even though he's not living with me.

I empathise completely. Phone calls, door knocks & having to go through the mail when it arrives prompt such huge levels of anxiety for me; I feel like I can't breathe. Police cars was an initial but that has passed, I hope it does for you too. My respect for the police will possibly never return.

The police officer told me before they left and took him, to grab a chines and bottle of wine and forget all about it lol who trains these people?

You're not alone. I no longer answer the door. I feel angry when I see the Police and any bangs I can hear from outside make me panic. I will never trust the Police again. They are a disgrace and it's clearly not just the a-holes who dealt with me who are, there's many of us who have been mistreated by them.

The police often tell us non offenders to forget all about it from my experience of chatting to others.. they want us out of the way, but involved enough to support our person so they don't hurt themselves. They would lose their conviction otherwise.

I am working on triggers with my therapist and let me tell you, with the trauma you are experiencing, paranoia is a very normal response.

You must help yourself- I feel huge guilt for helping myself, but I will burn the hell out otherwise and my thinking has not been healthy.

Knocks at the door.. certain times of day.. all traumatising here. You're not alone x

I sometimes wonder how I have coped/do cope without medication, be it to carry on normally or to relax/sleep!

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I've just rang for a doctors appointment as I can feel myself sinking. We are coming up to a year now with my son and the police rang me yesterday to say they applying to the court today for some reason. I can't even reminder what she was saying. But it's triggered all the initial fear I felt at the beginning. I've not slept and feel so full of fear I feel like I'm going to have a heart attack which is why I rang doctors first thing. I'm currently taking citalapram which I have managed with till now but this is on a whole new level for me now. I can't cope with this much longer. I know I need counselling but I can't afford it as I'm having to pay for my sons counselling. Sorry for venting but I've no one else I can speak to. I just want this nightmare to end. Xx

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Everyone copes differently. I found my son keeping strong as he faced up to what he'd done, gave me strength in a way.

Agreed on the door knocks when not expecting anyone, just a living hell