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I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I posted this morning that I'm feeling exactly the same (I'm sure there are loads of us). All I can say is that it did become more liveable after a few months. It's always there in my head but there did become times when I'd think oh I've not worried about it today. So just hang in there you are most definitely not alone. I'm just coming up the the year mark and the police rang which triggered off my anxiety massively today. Each day will become a little easier for you xx

Ahhh bless, it's so so damn hard at the beginning - I was desperately unhappy as my family was smashed to bits too - so know exactly how you feel.

Give your son time, space and support as we've discussed men deal with these situations very differently to us females.

Remember yourself too....... you matter and not just an emotional support for everyone else.

the cuddle you need is given by all is ladies on here xxxxxx

You are not alone x x x

Parkerpoo1

As the other lovely ladies have said we have been through these feelings and many of us still.do x

You are not alone we are all here for you xx

Hi,

so sorry you are feeling like this. We are a year and a half after the knock and the pain does ease. I kept just screaming in my head at the start I just want our life back. Just know that you are not alone in this and take things one day at a time. Please look after yourself xx

Please see your GP, I know how you feel

i have to have medication. I cannot function without.



also talking therapy helps.

It's definitely a grieving and acceptance process... none of us here will ever be the same person again and our lives are changed at the moment of the knock.

I want my old life back too and I have clung to it with my fingertips, but 7 months in and I am beginning a new phase in this journey. I am beginning to see that my life has and will continue to change.. it's upto me how I deal with it.

Speak to your GP. Take each minute as it comes. You are strong and you can survive this.xx

Ps - this comes from someone who has only just started to feel like it's worth trying. It has taken me 7 months to truly see that I need to help myself - please don't feel a failure if you feel like you can't pick yourself up yet. But you have to keep on keeping on in the meantime xx

I get it too, i felt like my whole world was gone. I list my tien sister 6 weeks b4 knock so I lost both people who were closest to me. My entire world collapsed, I felt like nothing ejse would ever be right, the whole world outside collapsed and me and my kids had survived. So survived I have. 19 months on got to the point where I am able to make it on my own. I'm sticking by my person 100% but on my bloody terms . Guess Irs easier for me cause we have no kids together, but hes a good person who dud a crazy one off thing.irs so much more Complex than what people think. My heart goes out to you but we are all here for you, life goes on.

So sorry to hear you're feeling like this, and I completely understand. We are only 3 weeks post-knock, but I am just so grateful that the police asked if they could refer me to a charity they are connected to that supports families. The support worker I have been allocated has been nothing short of amazing - a bright light in a dark world.

I also recommend talking to your GP and being honest about how you're feeling with other agencies involved. Our school has been incredibly supportive and the GP also.

On the really difficult days when you just don't know what to do, I really recommend the Shout service. I had a day when I literally couldn't move, and they spent an hour texting me and it made such a difference. xx

Family ultimations are the cruelest blow.. :(