Just feel so lonely
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I am sitting here all alone and I feel so down. I am fed up feeling like this. I am receiving counselling which is helping. My OH though appears to be getting more support than I am. Where I am now going to have to work more, he has been told by his probation officier that they do not think he is upto working yet! While he hides from the world, I have to face people who know. I am going back to work soon and I know people have seen in the media about his crimes. I have to face them knowing that they are probably judging me. I have been getting really angry with him all week which is not helping anyone really.
My grown up children who all still live at home, live in their rooms so I do not see them often. My best friend will have nothing to do with me and the friends that stayed loyal to me are great, but are not that close. I do not have much family. So I feel very alone and isolated.
I spend most evenings reading this forum and trying to decide what I want, to stay or go? Be married or get divorced? To be honest I want both as I did not ask for this situation. How in a country of about 60 million people can I feel so alone?
sorry, just feeling sorry for myself tonight. It does not help trying to lose weight as I have put on loads so have no chocolate to keep me company. Just hoping that life will get better.
thanks for listening. X
My grown up children who all still live at home, live in their rooms so I do not see them often. My best friend will have nothing to do with me and the friends that stayed loyal to me are great, but are not that close. I do not have much family. So I feel very alone and isolated.
I spend most evenings reading this forum and trying to decide what I want, to stay or go? Be married or get divorced? To be honest I want both as I did not ask for this situation. How in a country of about 60 million people can I feel so alone?
sorry, just feeling sorry for myself tonight. It does not help trying to lose weight as I have put on loads so have no chocolate to keep me company. Just hoping that life will get better.
thanks for listening. X
Hi Webb89,
I am sorry u r feeling this way, I no it is hard and I no how lonely it can feel, just take 1 step at a time things will get better, I no it doesn't feel like it now but it will. Try to focus on u and how ur feeling try to get time for u if u can ( I no its hard ) just slow steps xx sending a big hug to u and love xx
I am sorry u r feeling this way, I no it is hard and I no how lonely it can feel, just take 1 step at a time things will get better, I no it doesn't feel like it now but it will. Try to focus on u and how ur feeling try to get time for u if u can ( I no its hard ) just slow steps xx sending a big hug to u and love xx
Hi Webb89
i find in this journey you can be surrounded by people but as everyone is dealing with their thoughts you feel very much on your own.
This forum and the people on here continue to keep me going and ease my loneliness.
Our support and care is with you xxxxx
i find in this journey you can be surrounded by people but as everyone is dealing with their thoughts you feel very much on your own.
This forum and the people on here continue to keep me going and ease my loneliness.
Our support and care is with you xxxxx
Thank you both. This forum is the only thing that keeps me going most days. Xx
Webb89
It is lonely I also have moments when I feel so alone. I have hobbies and activities I get involved with and friends I interact with and do things with and also my family, but only a few people know, s o with those who don't know I can't tell them why I'm feeling down on any particular day, or ask for a hug or indeed any other form of help or support.
This group is so great because we are all going through much the same thing and understand the feelings, the confusion, the grief, the anger, the fear, the shame (even though we have done nothing wrong) and of course, the loneliness. And so we can see that we are not actually alone at all.
I hope you can stay away from the chocolate but we all have our distraction activities, mine is sudoko or mindless web browsing. Hopefully we will both soon find healthier outlets for dealing with our feelings.
It is lonely I also have moments when I feel so alone. I have hobbies and activities I get involved with and friends I interact with and do things with and also my family, but only a few people know, s o with those who don't know I can't tell them why I'm feeling down on any particular day, or ask for a hug or indeed any other form of help or support.
This group is so great because we are all going through much the same thing and understand the feelings, the confusion, the grief, the anger, the fear, the shame (even though we have done nothing wrong) and of course, the loneliness. And so we can see that we are not actually alone at all.
I hope you can stay away from the chocolate but we all have our distraction activities, mine is sudoko or mindless web browsing. Hopefully we will both soon find healthier outlets for dealing with our feelings.
Thank you Bitterbean
Though I was very naive at the beginning I told alot of people as I assumed it was all a huge mistake but it was not and it has now been in the media, i presume now everyone knows. But I went to a club I belonged to, I was on edge all the time thinking someone will say something, but no one did. But I still felt as if I was not truly there. It is difficult to explain, only that I could not stop thinking if only you knew you would not want us there. We might go again but i find it very stressful. This makes me feel more isolated.
But the people on here are such a great comfort. X
Though I was very naive at the beginning I told alot of people as I assumed it was all a huge mistake but it was not and it has now been in the media, i presume now everyone knows. But I went to a club I belonged to, I was on edge all the time thinking someone will say something, but no one did. But I still felt as if I was not truly there. It is difficult to explain, only that I could not stop thinking if only you knew you would not want us there. We might go again but i find it very stressful. This makes me feel more isolated.
But the people on here are such a great comfort. X
Thank you Bitterbean
Though I was very naive at the beginning I told alot of people as I assumed it was all a huge mistake but it was not and it has now been in the media, i presume now everyone knows. But I went to a club I belonged to, I was on edge all the time thinking someone will say something, but no one did. But I still felt as if I was not truly there. It is difficult to explain, only that I could not stop thinking if only you knew you would not want us there. We might go again but i find it very stressful. This makes me feel more isolated.
But the people on here are such a great comfort. X
Though I was very naive at the beginning I told alot of people as I assumed it was all a huge mistake but it was not and it has now been in the media, i presume now everyone knows. But I went to a club I belonged to, I was on edge all the time thinking someone will say something, but no one did. But I still felt as if I was not truly there. It is difficult to explain, only that I could not stop thinking if only you knew you would not want us there. We might go again but i find it very stressful. This makes me feel more isolated.
But the people on here are such a great comfort. X
Hi - I think a time passes and you reach a stage where you stop worrying 'does he/she' know etc. You think gossip will never stop but it does come to a halt as people move on.
I feel the only time it'll get to me is if I bump into someone from my past. I'd just be friendly and if they mentioned my son, I'd keep my reply basic I owe no one an explanation!
You certainly learn new strategies in dealing with folk!!!!!
I feel the only time it'll get to me is if I bump into someone from my past. I'd just be friendly and if they mentioned my son, I'd keep my reply basic I owe no one an explanation!
You certainly learn new strategies in dealing with folk!!!!!
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