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Hi Pregnant and Overwhelmed,
Many congrats on the birth of your beautiful baby girl, like you say, what a ray of light in these terrible situations.
With regards to SS, have you seen the written agreement yet? Is it the 3 hours, 3 days a week they are asking you to adhere to?
As to whether they will be involved indefinitely, I think they will be involved until your case is closed. I have not seen instances on here whereby cases are closed while partners are still on bail/under investigation, but I may be wrong. My understanding is that if the case is closed now, it will be under the written agreement of baby's dad only having 3 hours, 3 times a week. Anything more would need to be assessed.
I know it must seem frightening but please do not feel bullied into making any decisions you do not feel comfortable with. They are here to support you and baby. Maybe you could suggest having a "phased return" for your partner at first to gauge their response, so perhaps suggesting an increase in time or days? It is not unreasonable that you need more help with a new-born, and this ensures you are still mitigating any risks posed. As Daff said, I would look at creating a safety plan if you haven’t already – there is lots of advice on here on what to include.
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Many congrats on the birth of your beautiful baby girl, like you say, what a ray of light in these terrible situations.
With regards to SS, have you seen the written agreement yet? Is it the 3 hours, 3 days a week they are asking you to adhere to?
As to whether they will be involved indefinitely, I think they will be involved until your case is closed. I have not seen instances on here whereby cases are closed while partners are still on bail/under investigation, but I may be wrong. My understanding is that if the case is closed now, it will be under the written agreement of baby's dad only having 3 hours, 3 times a week. Anything more would need to be assessed.
I know it must seem frightening but please do not feel bullied into making any decisions you do not feel comfortable with. They are here to support you and baby. Maybe you could suggest having a "phased return" for your partner at first to gauge their response, so perhaps suggesting an increase in time or days? It is not unreasonable that you need more help with a new-born, and this ensures you are still mitigating any risks posed. As Daff said, I would look at creating a safety plan if you haven’t already – there is lots of advice on here on what to include.
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Thank you for the suggestion of a safety plan I will look into this
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