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Pregnant and Overwhelmed

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September 2022

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Posted Sun September 25, 2022 11:09pmReport post

I feel I'm in quite a unique situation in that my partner isn't being investigated for iioc he is being investigated for prohibited images of children (anime/manga/hentai). I have purposefully not tried to research what this is but am finding it hard to fathom why he potentially started looking at this stuff.



He swears to me the police won't find any iioc on his devices but it seems he became addicted to a anime/manga site and on consuming lots of material he can't recall everything he's looked at.

Im able to find a lot around punishment for illicit images but not prohibited. He told me there will be nothing related to animals either.

Im by no means downplaying what he's done but I just want to prepare myself for possible outcomes. SS have put him on tight restrictions and so are his bail conditions. Yet the police indicated as it wasn't a priority case, computer forensics could take even longer to come back. They even told me it was a 'grey area of the law'. I have a newborn baby and it's been incredibly difficult without him here. The knock came the week before her birth.

he swears to me he has no interest in children and that it was an escalating porn addiction where he was looking through hundreds of 'magazines' on this site a day. Yet how can I trust him around our young baby daughter. Even if these images aren't 'real' children it still worries me he was potentially looking at the 'stage' before that....

BaffledB

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July 2021

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Posted Mon September 26, 2022 9:16amReport post

Hey Pregnant and Overwhelmed,

I'm so sorry you find yourself here. I don't think I can recall anyone with this situation and I'm not 100% on it myself to be honest. It's a bit of a sticky one because I understand that iioc can also include things like imposing a child's face onto a a nude photo and things like that but in regards to hentai etc which is child related I don't 100% know what they would class that as - if that's what it is. Prohibited images aren't as serious as iioc, they carry a lesser sentence and restrictions. Does your partner know exactly how much they may find? My partner has been charged with communication but extreme images/videos were found unsolicited from a Whatsapp group - the things in my opinion are pretty standard and whilst I find them distasteful I think it's a stretch to classify them as illegal. The CPS hasn't charged him for this - I think in scenarios like that it needs to be clear they are used for sexual gratification. I'm not sure if any of this helps you or not, I'm really not sure about this but didn't want to leave you unanswered. I think in situations like this it will always leave some doubt in your mind and time will tell in regards to evidence etc so for now all you can do is be vigilant for your child and hopefully things will become clear for you xx

HelpMe

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Posted Mon September 26, 2022 9:49amReport post

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majestictopaz

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December 2019

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Posted Mon September 26, 2022 12:54pmReport post

My partner had a charge relating to prohibited image (it wasn't mentioned in court what exactly the images were). But he also had animal charges and iioc. The iioc is seen as the worst material and so was sentenced mostly on that.

I would personally wait to see what evidence is found. My partner was deep into porn and tabboo material that he could not remember everything he saw or downloaded.

Pregnant and Overwhelmed

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Pregnant and Overwhelmed

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Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

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Posted Tue September 27, 2022 8:03amReport post

Hi pregnant and overwhelmed,

I wanted to let you know that it's possible for your baby to have a good relationship with her dad even with the time restrictions in place on contact. My baby had 6 hours once a week from birth until very recently and has an amazing bond with her dad. It will ultimately come down to the effort your partner makes when he is with your baby.
We have done video calls too as she got older, they're not very long and she rarely sits still but at nineteen months she says hi dad when we start the call, he talks to her about what she's doing at the time if she's building a tower or drawing etc. He has a few toys at his parents house so he'll bring them on the screen to say hello too and keep her interest.
It's a very different life to what I'd wanted but can honestly say that they probably have a better relationship than if things were as planned because he may not have made so much effort if he lived with us.
We've recently gone back to ss and there are now no restrictions other than contact needs to be supervised. I'm only comfortable doing one additional day as things stand because we have work to do on our relationship and I won't commit to anything I can't sustain if things don't work out for us. Sending love xx