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Specialist Assessment done -confused

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July 2021

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Posted Mon September 26, 2022 11:08amReport post

Specialist assessment done and comes out as husband is low risk - there are recommendations to keep this risk low and all seem fair.



however we have a 4 yo and one of the recommendations is no intimate care. And though I understand this to a point if he is low risk I don't know what this means for the future. Bathing/showering fine but help with toiekting, if we were to try get back to a 'normal' life with him moving home there may be times I am not there such as a much needed break with friends for a night or work running over. It feels like it's just back to bail conditions. so confused. And I know social care will jump on this.



14 months in - nfa by police and risk assessment condluing low risk yet it feels nothing has changed. How much longer I just want to get on now.

What do I know

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July 2021

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Posted Mon September 26, 2022 12:32pmReport post

Yep case NFA and low risk in assessment though only had the feedback today.

It was online communication (police decoy) and intent to meet. So conversation between adults and no evidence to say there was any intention to meet. Nothing found on devices. 1st time in Thai situation. Husband has told me everything from what I am led to believe from the police and CS. Husband has done a lot of work, no excuse but he was in a bad place. If it wasn't the knock there would have been something else and both have said that time strangely saved him. Anways lots of work done. The stop it now course has been recommended which is fine. It's just the personal care I'm struggling with if low risk and NFA.



also the complicating factor is I'm a social worker so under so much scrutiny it feels. And I know I can say to children a social care no but that could also impact on job. And sadly it's not the social worker and her manager making decisions but higher up.



just feeling really down today when should be a good day with a low risk assessment