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Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Wed September 28, 2022 3:39amReport post

So my partners alcohol tag came off about two weeks ago.. He's spiralled today hardcore.

He needs help. He needs to be sectioned. He self harmed again, this time in small ways so I don't notice. When I leave, he will kill himself. He hates himself for cheating years ago and for his crime. He has body dysmorphia severely.

I really need him to admit himself. I needed the ambulance I phoned earlier to admit him but nope.

Ive been mentally unwell as well up and down and told him that I'll be looking into a place to buy for myself.

I know he's too weak to do it himself.. He'd rather die or self harm accidentally in so badly that he dies.

Im just powerless.

Daffodil

Member since
March 2022

965 posts

Posted Wed September 28, 2022 5:41amReport post

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Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Wed September 28, 2022 2:50pmReport post

He's been handed over to the crisis team now and he's got his first councelling under probation tomorrow too.

Ive started looking for houses too to buy myself.

It's very sad but I feel at peace with it right now. Add on to this that I have sexuality questions I want to get answered and I guess that makes it easier. But by no means does it mean that I don't love and care for my partner... I just cannot help him.

I will always stand by what I say about his crime as well.. He's not a monster. These men aren't monsters. Theyre missing some pieces and they need help to find them.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Wed September 28, 2022 7:22pmReport post

Oh my goodness, you've been through it. You've really been through it. You've hit the stopping point and you can't take anymore. You've honestly did everything u could. Your doing the right thing your guts telling you to do. Next time tell him to straight to a & e if he presents himself suicidal, they have to take him in. You need to get help for yourself now. I know when my person tried twice second time nearly successfully, it was horrendus.i feel for you x

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Wed September 28, 2022 9:30pmReport post

My goodness I really feel for you. I hope you are getting some support too.
has he been sectioned? You've done the right thing. Awful situation for you both x