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Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Wed September 28, 2022 10:22pmReport post

Hi

Can anyone give me some advise on police sharing photos with the media . ( Photo on arrest) . The solicitor has said it's a gamble they can get the photo or not . But I was wondering how you all have coped with this . Has your photo been posted in the media . Is there any point contacting the officer in charge ? We have removed all social media ect and I'm pretty sure there is no photos they could find. Other that a photo outside the court (has anyone had this?) Or I see alot of people's arresting photo in the media and I'm pretty sure most people would have tried to ask them not to use it xx

BaffledB

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Posted Wed September 28, 2022 10:27pmReport post

In my experience with the Police (a horrific one - bunch of lying toads) I wouldn't ask them for any favours and would be almost certain that asking them would spur them to ensure it was used. If your experience is different and they were compassionate and helpful then it might be worth a try. Would it be a case of the media being present and then contacting the Police requesting a photo? It's such a gamble isn't it. I'll keep everything crossed for you that it doesn't get posted at all. It makes me feel sick the thought of it when it gets to that stage for us xx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Wed September 28, 2022 10:38pmReport post

Thank you I was thinking maybe it might alert them. The OI at first was lovley to me always phoning checking if I was okay she said she will do whatever she can blah blah told me social services won't come round because I am in close contact with her and she has told them I'm safe to gaurd them ect was all good answered my calls . Called me back ect . Then one day social services and police knocked on the door and said it was picked up on a camara that my partner and daughter were alone in the car (not true) they questioned me and my daughter for ages . I was so upset and angry after it sank in I thought I'm not having this . I rang the social worker and said I want to see the picture and I want a date and time and I will prove that I was either in the car or it wasn't them. I then rang the officer in charge so many times left messages . She never called me back hasn't answered since she just cuts off the call and the social worker said she thinks the photo wasn't clear the last she heard and they might have got it wrong . Now the social worker won't reply . So sorry long story short there all idiots . So I now think she thinks we have done this and broken the conditions but she can't prove it so I think she's proberly mad . But it's very frustrating because it isn't true xxx

Smile through tears

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 4:19amReport post

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Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 6:53amReport post

O so sorry that's so nasty :( . Yea I'm feeling like the police just say to us don't worry we won't share the photo at this time to us then later they will do what they want . Xx

Newlady

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April 2021

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 6:57amReport post

This is an intresting post because I've been thinking the same thing. The barrister is gonna put forward about his mental health and suicide risk, putting forward all his medical reports etc. He's changed his name which they are using now which is great but if they put a pic on then it's a waste of time. I'm toying with the idea of calling oic, this week has been a huge trigger for me seeing the evidence, I don't know how I'm still working but if this comes out, it will be even worse. Not just for me but for my children and his. I even thought about asking my doc to write a begging letter to the judge stating my mental health, I need to move quick as hearing will be in a few weeks. Might just give everything a shot.

Xxx

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 7:39amReport post

Hi new lady . Yes I feel the exact same . We were lucky in magistrates there was a bigger thing going on so all attention was on that . And we managed to get his name changed on the day . And alot of people said name change will only work before charges but they have changed the charge sheet aswell. He said that the lady typing up the transcript said am I just putting the new name . And the judge said yes so hopefully him old name will be nowere for crown. My worry is the police officer in charge said he wudnt be able to change his name . So I think now the solicitor has if I call her will I have to say the new name and alert her to it. Will she think that he's trying to escape his crime and put the picture on purpose . Is your crown in a few weeks mine is to . So I'm debating what to do . Because like you if the picture is up them that's the plan screwed . Police from the start have told me not to worry there's bigger things going on but I also see some pathetic story's in the media of kids throwing apples or stealing trolleys so somtimes I'm not sure it's not news worthy I feel people like these sorts of story's xx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 7:42amReport post

I'm still searching the media every second for the magistrates media incase . Because they could show a pic and both names so fingers crossed for that . I feel the police will think he's just trying to get away with it but it's not for him it's for my children . I couldn't imagine them seeing daddy in a picture . Hopefully they wudnt but I'm sure later in life it will be shown xx

Newlady

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 11:26amReport post

We just got evidence last week so hoping for plea in two weeks then crown 5 weeks after. Its so scarey, I woukdnt give a rats ass of it was just me if I'm honest, it's the kids I'm worried about, I'm quiet well k Owen as I've always worked with community and now in local hospital. He changed nane b4 charging so they are onky using that name thank goodness, off all social media both of us. I'm praying the cops don't realise his pic for badness.

Life feels over

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September 2022

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 11:48amReport post

Forgive my ignorance but surely if cases progress to jury fair trial is not possible if details are circulated in the media at the outset or am I missing something? We have a double barrelled surname which is incredibly distinctive so I'm going ask my person to discuss name change having read this thread.



Thanks again to everyone posting, this platform is truly invaluable x

WomenWept

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 2:16pmReport post

@ life feels over.



I suppose in relation to your question, that would only matter if the defendant had pleaded not guilty, as it would then go to trial.



My story isn't too dissimilar to Xxx's in that, he changed his name by deedpoll after first interview, however when it came to second interview he was still charged under his original. But when we went to magistrates he only took a bank statement with the new name and that was accepted by the person, and the charge sheet was then retroactively changed to his new name. In court they only referred to him by his new name and thankfully there was no press for whatever reason, but if there had have been it would have been the new name anyways.



So I would wholeheartedly recommend going ahead with the name change. It's not foolproof of course, and it may not be accepted, or they may use both names on the day. But it's a chance. It does feel a bit like he's evading justice in some way, but as we have small children he put forward to his solicitor that he couldn't bare the thought of having their name dragged through the mud too, and having to suffer further, needlessly. Which the solicitor then passed on to the other gentleman that read out the charges (can't remember his title) and he was satisfied by that



I wish you all the luck in the world! We've been fortunate, and I thank god every day for that, that things are finally returning to normality. I wish you, and XXX all the luck in the world. It's so awful, all of it. And we, and our children suffer just as much and I feel like this is never highlighted enough!



Hugs and kisses ladies x

Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 2:56pmReport post

The police kindly shared my sons case and his photo on there social media page which in then got shared by all :-(

I did look just the once and that nearly broke me I could see the pain and upset in his face

I really try not to think of it but I know at just a click it is out there x

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 4:26pmReport post

Know where your coming from Upset - it's hard (very hard) but you do your best to place these times in the past and leave them there. X

Upset mum

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Posted Thu September 29, 2022 4:59pmReport post

Hi Smile,

We do indeed, I just hope our sons refrain from the google effect when they have served their sentance x

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Fri September 30, 2022 9:38amReport post

That's awfull :( sorry to hear that . They really don't care about the affects of media . I still don't agree that the public need to know when there danger to the public . But somthing that will never change xx

WorseThanAnyNightmare

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April 2022

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Posted Fri September 30, 2022 10:46amReport post

Totally understand how you feel. We've removed all evidence of my partner from the internet that we could find. Any photos and info.

With it being so long since the knock, 6 months, I think most of our neighbours have forgotten about it. But I'm terrified that his photo will end up in the newspapers and he is easily distinguishable which I can't imagine what that would cause.

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sat October 1, 2022 8:07amReport post

Partner signs the register yesterday. He spoke with the visor who said that a file of information goes to court with a police picture in . If there is press in the room they have the press back including the photo . He said if there not in the room they can get the transcripts ect but not the photo as they won't hand it out otherwise . So it's all down to them being in the room on the day . (This is what he's told us anyway ) so I'm extra worried now as I though there was a hope no picture would be given . There been cases everyday day latley from this local reporter and ther wall with pictures from arrest :( it's really knocked me back :( I always new this was an option to happen but somehow how praying deep down that there wouldn't be a picture xxx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sat October 1, 2022 8:10amReport post

He was also thrown off when he went to sign as he knew of the woman (he used to work with her partner they were close friends) no the shear panic got the better off him and the meeting was a confrontation disaster . When he got home the man text him saying come back we need to talk . So he went back and explained his attitude was because he new the woman ect so they have resloved it and had a good chat but he's stil worried she could tell her partner or anyone .( I no they arnt ment to ) but people talk about home about work ect eveen if it's confidential xx

ACompleteMess

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Posted Sat October 1, 2022 9:11pmReport post

Hi, I'm not sure how this will differ depending on where you're from in the UK but I found out the police force that's dealing with my partners case has a policy where they won't share an offenders photo unless they are given more than 8 months custodial. Not sure how this will differ in each place but could be worth questioning their policies? X

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Sun October 2, 2022 8:29amReport post

Thank you I will ask . I thought maybe it's just if people went to prison becaus ethats all I was seeing in the media but lately there ahs been stories with pictures eveen for a few weeks in prison :( . Crown courts in a few weeks and I just feel sick everyday . I maybe should of told my family before this . I am bothered about the general public but it's more the issue that I havnt told a sole so I will have to go threw the stress of telling all family ect xxx

ACompleteMess

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Posted Tue October 4, 2022 9:02pmReport post

Xxx I feel you on that. The only people that know in our family are my parents who myself and my partner live with, so they were present during 'The Knock'. We decided not to tell anyone else until we needed to and now it's getting close to court we're all starting to worry and panic about how we're going to tell the rest of my family, grandparents ect. My grandparents love my partner and have always been so good to him so I know they're going to be devastated. I'm honestly dreading it.

Jayjay

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December 2021

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Posted Tue October 4, 2022 9:08pmReport post

Our police force said they won't share photo unless he gets 12 months custodial sentence (even if suspended). Obviously there is always the chance of media at court but sadly there is nothing you can do about it, it's out of our control. Positive thoughts xxx and look after yourself x

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Wed October 5, 2022 8:44amReport post

Thank you . Hope your doing okay after sentencing and getting your head around the restrictions. Mine had his first meeting with the visor . He said the guys okay just hope it stays that way . And social services don't come down to heavy after court xx

Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Wed October 5, 2022 8:46amReport post

Acompletemess it's so hard isn't it . I hope my family forgive me for keeping it a secret but least they have had no upset all year like me . I'm hoping it will not come out and I can keep it a secret forever god no sif that's possible but I'll try xx

D53

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Posted Wed October 5, 2022 6:24pmReport post

Reading all of this does make me wonder about what will happen in my OH case. He is not able to get to court due to his disabilities so he will have to appear to plead and for sentencing by video link. I just don’t know what will happen or how. He did not go to the Police Station due to being housebound. So, none of the usual things on here apply in his case.

Like others we have not told anyone at all and hope not too but it may be out of our control. I try not to think about it but it nags away at the back of my brain.

Jayjay

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Posted Wed October 5, 2022 6:47pmReport post

Thanks xxx how come you've had a visor visit before sentencing? May I ask what charge is? im sure your family will understand why you didnt tell them. How they will react towards your oh is a different matter as everyone reacts differently and we can't control it unfortunately xx

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Xxx

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March 2022

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Posted Fri October 7, 2022 10:48amReport post

D43 :( inonits horrible hopefully we can all make it through this . Jayjay I'm not sure he signed the registery then he text saying come back we need a chat . Then he's coming round to his place today . He also had had a call from the probation team that have said they are recommending a community order and unpaid work. But I'm sure it dusnt mean that's what it will be have to wait and see. The visor seemed very good ( had an issue in the meetings as my partner new the woman ) so he coz all defensive in the panick she would tell people. So he went back and explained why he was so hositle. Then the visor said he's there to help him lead a normal life ect said I could have my daughter's friends round if he's not there . They won't tell work or the school ect but we'll see when he's sentenced could all change or he might not eveen get out xx

Xxx

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Posted Fri October 7, 2022 10:43pmReport post

yea my daughter's school I though they would have contacted them already . I'm sure they will be in contact after sentencing and well see what they say .