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Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Thu October 6, 2022 12:48pmReport post

Hi all,

is it normal for the process to take this long? the oic contacted us April saying the devices were back and he can now start to review them. He told us he should be able to tell us what dircetion its going in around July. We still havent heard anything from him. Im sick and tired of living in limbo. Should i contact him? any advice would be gratefully recieved x

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Thu October 6, 2022 2:57pmReport post

I empathise completely with your stress. Our knock was July 2021, we were advised by the Solicitor to avoid contact with the police at all, not even to request updates. They will pretend they are in your side but they are absolutely not. We had no further contact until notification that charges were being brought. This was via the solicitor at the end of August 2022. We still haven't received a list of items seized. Your legal team are the ones to trust not the police. They are the prosecutors. Sending strength x

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Thu October 6, 2022 6:51pmReport post

My husband stupidly never took a solicitor at the time of questioning as he believed it would make him look guilty. After much moaning from me and his mum we finally got a solicitor ready for the 2nd interview or charges. If we was to contact him would he be able to chase it even though his name isn't officially on the case yet? Hope this makes sense. I'm just desperate to know what the next step is.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Thu October 6, 2022 7:18pmReport post

Mum og 3 girls got the knock march 2021, charges and second interview in nov21 o ky got evidence 2 weeks ago and that was only because the barrister push and pushed it then complained to obusmen and judge and they were ordered to send it swear they do it on purpose, they onlyb sent worst of evidence so now we are waiting for the rest again b4 plea herring and sentencing. We contested two charges at second interview and got one dropped, but they stuck another one on instead. So yes, tell solicitor and barrister to push it it's the only bloody way we got further. I know it's hard but try to enjoy your time together now, before it all kicks off again because it's very very hard.

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Thu October 6, 2022 8:42pmReport post

Thank you, will contact them tomorrow. We had the knock september 2021. Husband was allowed home Rui in December 2021. All I keep thinking is my kids are also left in limbo and that's heartbreaking. I'm fed up of being lied to time and time again with a new deadline. I'm annoyed they're allowed to treat us (innocent) ones like this as well, yet the app that tricked my husband (kik) is still running and more innocent men are being trapped in this situation like we was. Sorry I'm just so angry

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Fri October 7, 2022 7:28amReport post

Get it all out honey shout away, believe me I've been there. It is unfair I feel for you families with little ones. Social services need educationed on this crime too. The social worker I spoke to had never heard of llf or this forem, she didn't even know what he did. (I have a 15 year old daughter not his so they were only involved in a few phone calls) I can't believe they let the men go home or supervision visits, then after 2/3 years when sentencing they decide suddenly they can have that anymore, makes my blood boil. Onky good thing is his barrister said that the long wait and the way he's been treated by police ss etc will be a mitigating factor. Look after yourself honey, do some self care, take some time out if all this for a few days xx

Em_bean

Member since
September 2022

38 posts

Posted Fri October 14, 2022 12:56pmReport post

@mumof3girls.



I hope it's ok to ask. What was your OH charged with and did social services try and stop him returning home after the police dropped restrictions.

we got the police here the end of September and he has a meeting the end of this month but I'm worried they'll just keep extending bail and the social worker was so awful.

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Fri October 14, 2022 1:21pmReport post

Hi,

My husband was accused of downloading cat a and c images from the Kik app. We had the knock September 21 and he was on bail and had to live at his mum's but was allowed supervised visit with the girls and I could supervise. They tried to extend his bail for longer but it was rejected so he was allowed home Dec 21. Ss allowed him home but we had to have a safety plan put in place. Since then the head of ss department has softened the safety plan as we had alot of issues as husband lost job and we lost house and the girls were really depressed so now he can take girls out If I deem it safe. He had a risk assessment done and they said he was no risk to my children. X