Any grown up children of an offender here?
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The Knock happened within a week of lockdown and my Dad has since received a suspended sentence so I have had a lot of time to go through all the varying emotions.
He is being accused of breaching the terms of his sentence and all I feel now is anger. Not violence! Just so mad he's not making every effort to show this isn't really him and it's back on us as a family to deal with the next fall out when he's at crown court soon. We have supported him so much, I personally have jeopardised my own health and wellbeing and this is how he acts?
I see a lot of posts from partners who are in the difficult position of deciding whether to stay and what to do if they have children together.
Is there anyone here whose parent has offended, how are you coping? Am I a bad person for feeling this angry and let down, and ready to walk away? Thanks for reading
He is being accused of breaching the terms of his sentence and all I feel now is anger. Not violence! Just so mad he's not making every effort to show this isn't really him and it's back on us as a family to deal with the next fall out when he's at crown court soon. We have supported him so much, I personally have jeopardised my own health and wellbeing and this is how he acts?
I see a lot of posts from partners who are in the difficult position of deciding whether to stay and what to do if they have children together.
Is there anyone here whose parent has offended, how are you coping? Am I a bad person for feeling this angry and let down, and ready to walk away? Thanks for reading
BlueJayy,
You sound like an amazing daughter and your dad is so lucky to have you.
You really deserve to put yourself first in this situation and you are right to be angry. Your dad is an adult and has to choose his own path. You have your own life and whilst you can be supportive you are not responsible for his actions.
My own grown up children have not been supportive at all of my partners behaviour.
please look after yourself
You sound like an amazing daughter and your dad is so lucky to have you.
You really deserve to put yourself first in this situation and you are right to be angry. Your dad is an adult and has to choose his own path. You have your own life and whilst you can be supportive you are not responsible for his actions.
My own grown up children have not been supportive at all of my partners behaviour.
please look after yourself
Bluejayy, if your boundaries have been ovestepped then being angry and wanting to walk away does not make you a bad person. We all have limits and our own level of tolerance, if your dad has gone beyond that limit and not done enough to sort himself out then it is not surprising that you are angry.
I don't the detail of his breach, and maybe you do. If you don't, it might be worth bearing in mind that it may have been accidental. I have read on here, for example, of people unthinkingly installing an update on their phone that deleted their Internet history in breach of their conditions. But if you know the facts and your dad has deliberately breached, then I completely understand how betrayed you feel. It's bad enough the first time round.
I don't the detail of his breach, and maybe you do. If you don't, it might be worth bearing in mind that it may have been accidental. I have read on here, for example, of people unthinkingly installing an update on their phone that deleted their Internet history in breach of their conditions. But if you know the facts and your dad has deliberately breached, then I completely understand how betrayed you feel. It's bad enough the first time round.