Another TMI question
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I have been given the strength by Lucy22 to ask something I have been wanting to for a while in relation to people's experience of a sex life during and after this journey. I am coming from the opposite perspective though.
Any time my OH & I have tried to be intimate since the knock I have really struggled, I get intrusive thoughts and have to stop because I become emotional.
That said we, we had intimacy problems prior to the arrest due to differing labidos because of some medical problems I have. I feel like we should be working on ourselves while we are forced to be separated and then have relationship therapy when we are ready to come back together. My OH wants us to still have some kind of sex life which I am struggling with.
For a long time I have felt that my OH has had a problematic attitude towards sex which I think has been confirmed through therapy identifying childhood trauma but he does not see it. In hindsight I think his attitude has subconsciously contributed to my lack of desire for sex.
Does any of this this ring true for anyone else?
Any time my OH & I have tried to be intimate since the knock I have really struggled, I get intrusive thoughts and have to stop because I become emotional.
That said we, we had intimacy problems prior to the arrest due to differing labidos because of some medical problems I have. I feel like we should be working on ourselves while we are forced to be separated and then have relationship therapy when we are ready to come back together. My OH wants us to still have some kind of sex life which I am struggling with.
For a long time I have felt that my OH has had a problematic attitude towards sex which I think has been confirmed through therapy identifying childhood trauma but he does not see it. In hindsight I think his attitude has subconsciously contributed to my lack of desire for sex.
Does any of this this ring true for anyone else?
I understand. My partner has always had a higher libido than me and always wanted to try different things.
I'm a full time working mum who is often busy stressed and tired, he made me feel like there was something wrong with me to not want it often. Don't get me wrong he never said anything as such or tried to make me do anything I didn't want to, but I always felt he was disappointed when I said no. I know now that he had an unhealthy sex addiction.
it sounds as though he needs more specialised therapy to help him understand his problems. Don't do anything unless you want to and you feel ready for it x
I'm a full time working mum who is often busy stressed and tired, he made me feel like there was something wrong with me to not want it often. Don't get me wrong he never said anything as such or tried to make me do anything I didn't want to, but I always felt he was disappointed when I said no. I know now that he had an unhealthy sex addiction.
it sounds as though he needs more specialised therapy to help him understand his problems. Don't do anything unless you want to and you feel ready for it x