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Unsupervised acces? How to?

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Green

Member since
June 2021

76 posts

Posted Sat October 15, 2022 8:47amReport post

Hi all,

So the knock came 16 months ago. We have been thru all the mess already, he was RUI, then supervised access with the kids with MIL staying over for childcare as I was wary of the psicological impact on the kids to suddenly being cared by someone outside the family (he was a stay at home dad before).

Fast forward now, he has been given comunity sentence with 80 hours hard labour, 40 hours therapy, 5 years in SOR and 2 years in SHPO with no restrictions for kids access unless sai kids stay in the house overnight, which will have to comunicate to the parents. Everything else is internet based.

SS closed the case sometime ago, but that was before he got his sentence.

I want him to come back to the house, not because I think we have a future, but because this arrangement with MIL is tedious to say the least, and was supposed to be temporary but we both have had enough.

I have set up a caravan in the back of my garden where he can stay for now until he finds his feet and is able to get a flat or something. The probation officer that he will be assigned in this county has come to see it. As usual, she then passed the buck that it'll depend on SS.

Is this right? And if so, what else can I do to expedite this?

Thanks for reading, much appreciated!

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Sun October 16, 2022 10:23pmReport post

How did SS end involvement with you? We were CIN and at the end of assessment it said it was up to me in the future if he was to move back in with me and kids, they are would not get involved again unless a referral came in from somewhere eg PO/mosovo x

Green

Member since
June 2021

76 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 5:41amReport post

Hi Jay,

Same, CIN but they never specified if it was up to me, just that as long as he wasn't in the house, they could close the case.