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Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Sun October 16, 2022 4:11pmReport post

So met up with my person today before plea hearing tommarow. We juat said goodbye and it was harrowing seeing him go and its not even sentencing. I hope I'm strong enough to see that through because I feel as if I'm swinging in the edge again. We had a good talk and we are both terrified now. I just wish I coukd be there with him but unfortunately not as its via zoom at the hostel were he lives 100 miles away. Is it normal to feel this way even just at plea? Sorry just ranting I've noone else but you guys to talk too x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2554 posts

Posted Sun October 16, 2022 8:15pmReport post

Bless you lovely. A lot of steps on this journey are quite devastating and harrowing. It's like trying to find your way through a thick fog of misery.

your feelings are normal and I send you a hug xxxxx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Sun October 16, 2022 9:55pmReport post

There's no right or wrong when it comes to how we feel. It's a huge sea of emotions being on this journey.
have yous separated or are yous apart as you live so far apart?
May I ask how come it's on zoom and not in person? (Just curious).
look after yourself and try to do something nice for yourself tomorrow x

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 6:42amReport post

Thank you both for your lovely reply big hugs back. Yeah he can't live with me as I've a 15 year old from prev marriage, so we meet up, sir b& b or if she's away to her dad's or friends staying he cones to my house. He had a flat but the man sold it. He's in a mental health hostel which has been amazing for him. I hvnt fully committed to what we 'are' yet just tgat I know I love him and support him, taking it day by day x

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 6:43amReport post

Oh it's by zoom as courts are still doing that with certain cases plus he lives so far away be hard for him to get up and two as it's 2 hours away. Today another hurdle is past. I'm a nervous reck and I've to go to work. Hoping for a half day

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 3:22pmReport post

Newlady

Totally normal feelings and emotions hun sending hugs to you xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 4:02pmReport post

Thank you upset big hugs back He's just signed sor. Took two hours he's drained but that's it done. One more hurdle xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 4:09pmReport post

It's so difficult on you both but another step nearer xx

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 5:55pmReport post

Hey Newlady,

Apologies, I wasn't very supportive in my response to you yesterday on my post, my head has been up my rear end as has yours. I'm glad another hurdle has been completed. Hopefully sentencing won't be too bad and then you can try and move forward in whichever way you decide. Xx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 6:02pmReport post

Another hurdle over Newlady.
Glad he's getting support, I hope you have some support too. I just kept telling myself nothings really changed since yesterday, we knew this was coming and it helped me get through some days to try and look at things objectivity. Other days of course I was and still am a bubbling mess! We just gotta roll with it xx

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

635 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 7:28pmReport post

Hi Newlady, glad to hear you and your person got through the day. Was thinking about you and just checked in for news. Does he have a date for sentencing?

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 7:53pmReport post

Ack thank yiu so much you've no idea how much the support means to me as noone k ows here what happened. Yeah 14th Nov, barrister hoping to bring it furward two weeks but I feel thars too soon but he just wants to get it over which is understandable.

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 7:57pmReport post

Baffled in no way were you not supportive so don't even think that and thank you sentencing 14th but barrister is in the ball and wants it for 2 weeks so we'll see. He's signed the sor took him 2 hours to go through it all with his visor manager but he saud she seems decent enough. He's also got a female judge which is scaring me a bit. X

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 17, 2022 7:59pmReport post

Jay Jay its a day by day thing isn't it? I just go with my feelings every day now it's strange I've got used to it. I can't imagine this is all gonna be over in 4 weeks x

Sadsister22

Member since
February 2022

95 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 12:04amReport post

Hi Newlady

Just wanted to pop on and offer you a supporting hug to you and your person for getting through today. Another step closer to some kind of closure and a new path.

Hope all goes well for 14th, will be thinking of you x

Daffodil

Member since
March 2022

965 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 6:08amReport post

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Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 7:03amReport post

Thank you sad sister and daffodil, yes it very surreal like its happening to someone else. I'm meeting him today big hugs all round. I had a hot bubble bath that works wonders for me and plenty of wineband beer at the weekend lol. I actually think it impacts us more than anyone to be honest, especially the girls with little children. Xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 7:04amReport post

And daffodil we will all be hear for you when the time comes for your son and your family xx