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Devastated after second knock

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Allie

Member since
August 2022

12 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 4:10pmReport post

I never in a million years thought I'd be here again. I thought my partner had gotten all the help and things were going well.

I'm just home from hospital with a newborn baby and the police came to the door to search the house in relation to child pornography.

He was due to be sentenced soon for the original offence and I thought it was the beginning of the end. Now, in an instant, it looks like our beautiful marriage and family is over.

I'm absolutely devastated. Heartbroken. Angry. Not sure if anyone has been through something similar or has any advice.

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 5:09pmReport post

Allie,

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your little baby. You must be in so much pain xx

Sending love and strength to you and hoping you have some physical support around you to help you through.

If you can speak to husband then ask all the questions and make it clear you need honesty. You are a brave woman for getting this far in the first place. X

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 5:11pmReport post

Oh Allie, I am so sorry you are going through this again. There are a couple of users on here who have had the second knock who may be able to give you some advice. It must have been so traumatic for that to happen again. Thinking of you xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 5:27pmReport post

Allie

So sorry to read this sending strength and hugs x

Can I ask if he is still under investigation could it be they had found more evidence or is this another incident? Not that it makes any difference but my son was RUI from the first know bit then they had more evidence so we had a second knock x

Please reach out to us and hope you have other support especially with a new baby xx

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 6:36pmReport post

Allie, I'm so very sorry that this has happened again. Sending lots of hugs to you and your beautiful new baby xx

Allie

Member since
August 2022

12 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 8:27pmReport post

Thank you for your kind words of support.

Upsetmum this is a separate incident. Not even sure if this knock will lead to anything legally but regardless he's been lying to me for months

The timing is so cruel, being hormonal and sleep deprived with a newborn. Thankfully the baby is doing really well.

I'm getting good support from my parents and parents in law and a close friend. Seeing my gp next week.

I'm just heartbroken. Despite everything we'd gone through, I thought there was so much good in our lives and was optimistic about the future. It would be easier if we had a bad relationship apart from this but things are really good otherwise or so I thought anyway.

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Tue October 18, 2022 8:49pmReport post

I'm so sorry to hear this :( thoughts and hugs sent your way . I found out the day I was pregnant my baby's now 6 months old and nearly at the final hurdal . It's so hard doing everything alone and the most happy times are ruined by this . Look after yourself . I'm here if you need a talk xx

Allie

Member since
August 2022

12 posts

Posted Wed October 19, 2022 2:41pmReport post

Thanks Xxx, sounds like you've had an awful tough time of it too. It's just so cruel.

I keep trying to live in the moment and concentrate on keeping myself and baby fed / just focus on the basics but it's very hard.

Every little thing reminds me of the happy home life we had only a few days ago and what we should have right now.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed October 19, 2022 5:37pmReport post

Oh Allie I am so sorry to hear it has happened again x

I am glad you have some good support around you and baby is doing well

Make the most of the support and try and get some rest when you can easily said than done but you need to give yourself some much needed you time also, hugs xx

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

635 posts

Posted Thu October 20, 2022 7:56amReport post

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