please help I am not coping
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I feel every single emotion from your post as I have felt that shock and pain. I was with my person 5 years due to get married (second marriage) I am a nurse so well never be able to live together until he's off sor, but I can't see why you can meet him. Surely yoyr private life outside of work and ss is just tgat. Private. I think you need answers, took me a month to meet my person, he was arrested march 21 we are only getting to sentencing now in 4 weeks. Its totally your call what you do in the future but I do thi k you need to meet him for a long conversation then go from there. Also ring your gp for some support and the lff helpline. It's quite ironic for mebyoo as I am a support nurse so came across this in my job with patients. Never in a million years did I think it would happen to me. Chin up just 5aje it one day at a time sweetheart.
I can completely relate to you skip01. I (was) a police officer at the time of my husbands investigation. What have they made you sign? I was told to end the relationship but never signed anything and during the 18 month investigation never was asked again about it even when I returned to work. They should be offering you support and referring you to the occupational health dept.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you; I have no advice on how to 'get through it' but you will. Everyday is a rollacoaster; be kind to yourself and do not let the organisation bully you into making any decisions especially as you've said you haven't been told anything/much about the investigation.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you; I have no advice on how to 'get through it' but you will. Everyday is a rollacoaster; be kind to yourself and do not let the organisation bully you into making any decisions especially as you've said you haven't been told anything/much about the investigation.
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Sorry you find yourself here in this club that none of us wanted to belong to.
It's a very painful experience and long drawn out process, so you first need to do what you can to look after and strengthen yourself to be able to cope. There is lots of support on this group, just hang in there and know whatever happens, no matter how painful and upsetting the road at times, you will survive this.
Sorry you find yourself here in this club that none of us wanted to belong to.
It's a very painful experience and long drawn out process, so you first need to do what you can to look after and strengthen yourself to be able to cope. There is lots of support on this group, just hang in there and know whatever happens, no matter how painful and upsetting the road at times, you will survive this.
Skip01 I don't know what to say, what a desperately cruel situation you're in. Not even being able to see him or talk to him makes it even more difficult for you to process what's going on.
It's such a huge shock and trauma.
I had never known what it was like to be in shock until after the first knock. I remember this strange sensation of life seemingly going on as normal around me, while for me the earth had turned on its axis like there'd been a huge earthquake or something. There is life before and life after. It feels like nothing will be the same again.
I'm not sure what you've signed but like newlady was saying, it might be good for you to meet him at some stage if nothing else only to ask all the questions you need to ask (not that there will necessarily be answers for them all)
Also like others were saying get support for yourself eg from the helpline, from your GP, a supportive friend or family member, counsellor mayb or supportive colleague at work. Anywhere you can get support, take it xx
It's such a huge shock and trauma.
I had never known what it was like to be in shock until after the first knock. I remember this strange sensation of life seemingly going on as normal around me, while for me the earth had turned on its axis like there'd been a huge earthquake or something. There is life before and life after. It feels like nothing will be the same again.
I'm not sure what you've signed but like newlady was saying, it might be good for you to meet him at some stage if nothing else only to ask all the questions you need to ask (not that there will necessarily be answers for them all)
Also like others were saying get support for yourself eg from the helpline, from your GP, a supportive friend or family member, counsellor mayb or supportive colleague at work. Anywhere you can get support, take it xx
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Oh skip what a horrible situation. Can you not register him as a known associate? What are the grounds they can sack you on?
take each day as it comes, don't be hard on yourself, you have done nothing wrong. Tell nobody unless you absolutely have to. Assuming the wife knows? Has he given reasons for his lies and the crime? Look after yourself first and formost, you will be ok xx
take each day as it comes, don't be hard on yourself, you have done nothing wrong. Tell nobody unless you absolutely have to. Assuming the wife knows? Has he given reasons for his lies and the crime? Look after yourself first and formost, you will be ok xx
Skip,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here! It's the worst thing you can ever go through. In regards to employment rights you can contact Unlock who will be able to help you. Right now you will have your mind racing at a million miles an hour. It takes a long time to process everything and deciding what you want to do isn't something you need to rush into doing and even if you decide it doesn't mean you can't change your mind later on. Look after yourself and take it one day at a time. It does get easier but this is a very difficult journey and we are all here to support you xx
I'm so sorry you find yourself here! It's the worst thing you can ever go through. In regards to employment rights you can contact Unlock who will be able to help you. Right now you will have your mind racing at a million miles an hour. It takes a long time to process everything and deciding what you want to do isn't something you need to rush into doing and even if you decide it doesn't mean you can't change your mind later on. Look after yourself and take it one day at a time. It does get easier but this is a very difficult journey and we are all here to support you xx
Hi.
I chose to resign after being diagnosed with PTSD and the role I was in I was constantly being triggered whist at work and I even worked from home! I've found employment elsewhere that fits around my children and I am so much happier. Obviously I understand this is not an option for everyone but I was disheartened in the job a very long time ago!!
It is so hard to know what to do for the best; everyone will have their opinion but doesn't help you make a decision especially as you have so many emotions and feelings involved.
I chose to resign after being diagnosed with PTSD and the role I was in I was constantly being triggered whist at work and I even worked from home! I've found employment elsewhere that fits around my children and I am so much happier. Obviously I understand this is not an option for everyone but I was disheartened in the job a very long time ago!!
It is so hard to know what to do for the best; everyone will have their opinion but doesn't help you make a decision especially as you have so many emotions and feelings involved.
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