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Webb89

Member since
July 2022

436 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 12:07amReport post

I do not know why I did it, but I looked up my OH fb article when he was sentenced. I have been told by my councillor to stop but i cant. I expected nasty comments, but was not prepared for the death threats. Now I am distraught and fear for myself and my family safety. There are no comments since it went on fb so that was about 10 weeks ago. But the death threats have left me scared nonetheless.(no one knows who he is as no photo, but there were comments that they will try and find his address)



Just needed to tell some one. I have no one i can tell as everyone i know though supportive of me wants nothing to do with my OH. They will not understand how it will affect me.



thanks for listening.

Edited Mon October 24, 2022 12:09am

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2538 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 3:54amReport post

Hi Webb - I'm listening my lovely. Carnt offer much advice but I do 100% understand your fears. I know my son has faced the horror of custodial but I do think us on the outside have 'more' to cope with at times...

As our address was printed + photo I was petrified for our home and parked car. Personally I'd come off fb immediately.

Just remember these views are based on the media which as we all know is distorted / you know the real truth at the end of the day. My heart reaches out to you and I hope as time passes your fears settle .

Edited Mon October 24, 2022 3:59am

Xxx

Member since
March 2022

439 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 7:27amReport post

Sorry this is happening to you . Are u with Ur partner or have you seperated ?

My case is current in the media getting shared about and the comments are horrible but for some reason I havnt had any messages or anything personally . They havnt connected the dots . But this worries me that they are trying to find out who he is and get pictures ect it's been 3 days . So will it take them time and they will get hold of for info and make it more known :(

I wouldn't worry about people attacking the house eveen though I sometimes thing that I'm sure there all keyboard gangsters and are just commenting nasty things because that's what they do.

I don't know much about your story but stay strong there's no other way . I'm preparing for the school run today somthing Im dreading incase they all gang up on me . Hugs and support sent Ur way xx

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 9:59amReport post

Webb,

I'm so sorry you are going through this. People on social media are not the same as they are in real life so try not to worry about the keyboard warriors! It's a societal norm to give it Billy big B%ll&£s when it comes to things like this and I find the men that are most vocal about it online often suffer from little man syndrome and therefore pick the easiest target to shout off about as they know the likelihood of anyone defending will be slim to none. If 10 weeks has passed and there has been nothing else I would imagine that the those who commented have probably forgotten about it and left 100's of other comments on other posts by now, however if you do feel unsafe please contact the Police and log your concerns but I am sure you will be ok. Sending love xxx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 8:13pmReport post

Majority are keyboard warriors. Please don't read them you will make yourself ill. Look after yourself and kids first and foremost. Any threat ring 999. Let his PO know how you are feeling x

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

436 posts

Posted Mon October 24, 2022 8:56pmReport post

Thank you all.



i am with my partner for now, have made no plans long term. I de activate my fb page every time i come off it so no one can trace me. My OH will see their PO this week so will notify them what is happening. It just adds what is a very stressful time.

Having to go back into the office in a couple of weeks which is on my mind as i know people have seen the newspaper acticle. But my employer will not take any nonsense if I receive any comments in work or outside of work by other workers so that is a good thing. It is a big organsiation that has very strict rules so at least I feel protected. I know of people who have got the sack for saying inappropriate things about people outside of work.



The comments were just so shocking.