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My mum k ows a watered down version, I told her the night if the arrest. She k ow he's was talking to an underage girl who was a undercover cop, which is true. Thars all I left of it. I keep both relationships completely separate so far. But if we are gonna make a good go of it later down the line I'll tell her. She was, understandably worried about my daughter and spoke to her incase anything happened, which I asked her to do. I also did too. I had to be sure and if I'm honest was the worst thi g about all of it. Obviously nothing happened and I never ever got a feeling when he was living with me for 6 years, so don't be surprised if your mum wants to safeguard her grandkids too honey. It's your call what to do, but personally I don't thi k you're lying your just not saying anything x

I have also told my parents a watered down version of events. I don't feel they need to know every little detail, obviously we can do this as it's not in the media as of yet. Their main concern was that me and my children are ok, which on the whole, we are. I'm very lucky as they've been very supportive and believe he can turn things around, if he puts in the work, which at the minute he's saying he will do.
Hope it goes okay for you x

It's a hard one xxx. Onky you can make a decision. If you want my opinion and you can ignore me if you want, I woukdnt tell her. It's been a few days and noones questioned it yet. Do what's best for your wee family, onky you k ow what that is x

I haven't told my parents I haven't been able to bring myself to tell them, my husband was arrested at work nearly 3 months ago now for iioc he was on an app called kik.

he has been bailed twice and now he is on RUI, SS were involved closed our case and now he is RUI they've started contacting me again making sure I don't let him move back in.



Iv thought a few times about telling them but we've had so much happening in such a short space of time, my husband was arrested the same weekend my auntie died, then my daughter who's 11 friend died, followed by my Nan. It's been really hard but just can't bring my self to tell them.

I didn't have a choice with telling my parents. My persons offender manager wanted my sister to be made aware as she has children. It was either I disclose or social services will. Thankfully my disclosure and agreement with my sister that my person would not come into contact with her kids was enough. He rarely did anyway.

Telling my step dad was the hardest thing, I was actually due to go visit for the weekend and ended up telling him on the phone the day before. Because my mum doesn't have a great memory and gets confused he told her for me. He then also opened the door by telling my sister the basics and I then called her to tell her everything.

I was so worried they would disown me that I didn't tell them until 6 weeks after sentencing. My sister was more upset that I'd not told her earlier.

They are the only people I have told. It never gets mentioned now, and my relationship with them hasn't changed. I know I'm lucky in that respect. It also means I don't have to lie and make up excuses for why we don't both visit etc.

Only you can decide what is best for you, but if there are other children in the family you may find that you don't have an option. I know others who have been forced to disclose.